How do I break this cycle it is interfereing with my adulthood.
MKR
This got me thinking, and I think it really is a cycle. I did it to myself too. I did it to my kids, my brothers did it to themselves and their kids too. It's what we were taught.
It wasn't until my daughter was grown and talked to me about how my parents made her feel (the same as me) did I see the light.
And when I heard my brothers frustration, and hurt feelings, and I talked openly with them it really all came to light for us. (the thing about - you do not have to live life like they did, or think you should. Your plan for your life can be different than theirs and still be a grand plan for you, and you don't have to feel guilty about it even if they act disappointed in you. It's OK if they don't agree with you, it doesn't mean that they are right, they don't know everything, they are just people, same as us.)
I've changed how I talk with my kids about what I want for them in life, that's for sure. The cycle is broken for them at least.
