If this child is only 9, I imagine this behavior is only going to get worse. Unless you have signed yourself up as therapeutic or are willing to deal with troubled behavior, I would really consider what you want the next 10 years of home life to look like.
Again, just my opinion.
I am just a nip-it-in-the-bud kind of person. I agree with other posters that you should seek some help. You definately don't want this to grow into something uncontrollable. I really didn't mean you should find her another home after 3 years, sorry if that is how it sounded. I'm just of the mind that if you know you are not going to be able to handle living with a FC's issues, it is better to either get a handle on them or realize you are over your head before you sign the papers. Your whole family is living this life, and your home should be as happy and conflict-free as possible.
