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I have met the most amazing young woman who has chosen my husband and I as PAPs to her unborn baby girl, due in just a few months. We are now FB friends and have communicated fairly consistently, but lately I've felt her pull back, A LOT!!! In all do honestly I am not afraid about her changing her mind, thought I recognize that could happen at any time, I am most concerned about her state of mind b/c she doesn't have a really good support system, is young, has a 1.5 year old boy, and experienced a very traumatic event just 3-4 months ago.
I would really appreciate the input of any PAPs, APs, Emoms, and/or Bmoms who have any experience with the adoption process. How much of a role did fear play on your decisions regarding the level of communication between Emoms and PAPs and Bmoms and APs? Any help would be greatly appreciated, as I am spending a lot of energy wondering what is happening with her and how I may be able to help. Do I just pull back to give her space and time? Or, Do I continue to attempt contact with her as a means of further strengthening our relationship and helping her along in her process, which, without doubt, must be a really difficult 'road' to walk upon?