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So my worker emails me and tells me to think over the weekend if we are a forever home for "Wildman"!
So much of me wants to say YES definately! He has made tremendous progress (but still needs a lot more one on one).
The twins are in the adoption phase and they want Wildman to stay with us (most days) BUT no on some days! The twins MISS all the attention they received before! Wildman tantrumed at least 10xs a day when he first came in October 2011.He now does maybe 1x a day. He was non verbal and currently can count 1-7 and say his ABC's! He has made remarkable progress BUT I have had to devote a ton of time and energy to parent him successfully! The twins see that and one of my kids slipped (grade wise) in school this year since Wildman has joined us.
I want to make the right decision for Wildman! Most days I cannot see him anywhere else. Since he has meshed with our family so well! Then other days I think "he needs a home where its just him". Where his parents can give him 100% attention that he needs on some days!
I never move children unless it is to RU! However I want what is going to be best for Wildman!
Has anyone btdt? Can I get some advice on things to out weigh and look at during this decision?
Help us please we love him dearly and want whats best for wildman!
I will update Monday also with our decision!
Thank you all!
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I don't know exactly what your son is like, or how old he is.. but all I can say is look at the progress since last fall!? Imagine how much more progress he will make in the coming year. I can't tell you what to do, but if you think he fits in your family, imagine how good it would be for him to stay in a home he is comfortable in,and is adjusting to.((hugs as you make your decision)).p.s. I have an adopted son with autism that is 5, he has made some HUGE gains in the past year, that I never thought would be possible. Consistancy and a stable home really go a long way with kids like this.
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AmyinWi
Thank you for the hugs! He is a great little boy. He is 4. He does require 100% supervision. That is our only struggle with our decision! We feel like he would do better in a home where its just Wildman! For his safety and nuturing! He is also agressive at times which is where we have to utilize our safety plan and have the other kids go into another room. Our safety plan is doable but we are only wanting whats best for Wildman! My heart and love says he should stay with us but my conscience and thoughts say we would be holding him back from making even more progress and growth!
God this is the most painful decision!
Thanks again!