Bmom's parents warning against open adoption

Then I am with the other poster - all you can do is set boundaries and abide by them. Do you think it would be appropriate to inform her of her parents concern? Maybe open the conversation with "I spoke with your parents and they seem to have lots of questions about the openness of the adoption...." and see where it goes? I certainly don't mean to be a Debbie Downer but I am glad that you are taking a step back to look both ways - your comment "unless they did want to parent or it was really true" is an honest comment. Again, I would think that if you do have an open relationship - and hope for an open relationship - you need to somehow gently tap the conversation with bmom. If nothing else, speak about the expectations after birth. You will have all of this in writing, no? Wish you the best as you go forward!