Adoptee how would you feel if you found out your birth mom was trying to contact you?

Unless he contacts you I am sorry but you will have to wait until he is 18 to try to establish contact. We had an open adoption that was closed almost immediately after the papers were signed by the adoptive parents. I never dreamed I would hear from my child until after she was 18. But she found us and contacted us in her teens even though her adoptive parents told her we were dead. So you never know what the future holds. And I was very suprised to find out that the adoptive parents had lied to her. I am not saying that the adoptive parents of your child are being less then truthful to you but you never know. I find it sad that your son's adoptive parents will not give you updates on him. In fact I find it cruel. What harm would it do to give you an update and pics a few times a year? Anyways......good luck in the future.