Adopted teen trouble - home, school, and legal

I have written previous posts over a year ago regarding an adopted son with discipline issues. The issues have continued mainly with petty theft inside the home, at school, and one store incident. This child has been officially diagnosed with conduct disorder with antisocial and narcissistic traits (traits, he has not been formally diagnosed with these disorders since his is still an adolescent. With his first legal issue he was placed on 6 months unsupervised probation, community service, restitution. Since being on probation, he now has 2 more petty larceny changes. Two of the thefts have taken place at school so he has also had suspensions for those incidents. He is also on probation with the school board, which was to end 10/31/2012. So as of now he has 3 pending petty larceny charges (the first charge was pending his probation conditions being met) that will require different court hearings and a school board hearing. The school board hearing will be his 3rd. The first one was back 2 years ago for fighting too often. The 2nd school board hearing was the end of last school year for his first school theft. And the next school board hearing is for this last school theft. His other theft issue took place out of the school setting. He has admitted to multiple other successful thefts and he has stolen from everyone in the home. We are being told by the police officer who works with the juvenile courts that he will most likely get many more slaps on the wrist. Now I have heard all the suggestions of he needs counseling (done), parent training/counseling (done), reward charts (done and totally insulted him because he isn't 8), taking things away, encouragement, all those things that everyone claims is what is needed. It is obvious that this is all related to his past experiences. That has never been debated. Now realistically speaking the courts have and will continue to require restitution (comes out of our pockets because by law we are required to make sure it is paid and he cant have a job because of the theft issue), community service (which is becoming more and more difficult because when they find out it is due to larceny charges the say no; however, the courts have informed us we will be held accountable if we don't find some place for him to serve). Of course now they can impose more counseling, although 6 years of various therapies to no avail. So basically, the consequences continue to be ours (lost wages, missed days at work, family time disrupted, financial burden due to the legal expenses, etc.) So realistically speaking our family is exhausted from what is required of us.. Time taken away from the other children. They have to quit their activities they have earned through good choices so that his probation requirements can be met and if other sanctions such as more therapy is imposed even more time we have to pull from somewhere and give to this situation on an already depleted schedule. People say love, hugs, positive words. Realistically speaking frustration, tears, other children feeling slighted, escalated stress levels... Where does a family go from here? And I am asking for realistic suggestions. I understand what the ideal answers are which are parents who can be superhuman and overlook everything and siblings who can also do the same, but that is unrealistic as we are not superhuman. Everyone in this home has needs. Although I understand why courts and school systems will say more therapy, more diversions, more community services because they don't want to give up and see another child go down the wrong path, but I also know it is because they have nothing else to offer and in the meantime the other children in the home are left confused wondering why others allowing them to continue to be unseen victims. Two working parents, 3 other children in the home..all with homework, all with social woes of some sort, all with goals and desires...Ideal would be have a parent quit work or tell the children they will need to sacrifice their successes and earned rewards for the sake of another. Realistically, none of that is feasible. So where does a family go from here? Thank you for your thoughts.