Need adult child advice.....badly!! (long)

This is something only you can decide. There is no right answer. Borderline people do not make rational decisions, and you can never win with them. She is going to make terrible choices. Those poor babies. I don't know what to tell you but to pray on this and listen to your heart. My plan for my daughter, who is shaping up to be a borderline, is to simply bribe her to have an Implanon every 3 years. It's visible in the arm, has to be implanted by a doctor, and removed by a doctor, so you know it's there, and you know it can't easily be removed. This, of course, does not help you in regard to those 2 babies, but it might help limit the number of innocents you have to consider in your interactions with your daughter. I am really, really sorry. You are living my nightmare.