She's 3... . And only 'real schools' not daycares are required to care about any special needs a child might have. I work in special Ed and we get kids into our special Ed preschool because they got kicked out of every daycare within a 50 mile radius all the time.
well, here i sit, mom of 5 kids, 4 with special needs. and at three, yes THREE, two had IEPs. one for autism and one for FAS. my fas baby is 3, she goes to a private christian school and has NOT been kicked out. She qualifies for special education, they come to the church and serve her needs, work with her private school teachers on how to meet her needs, and everyone loves her! at the tender age of THREE schools are indeed required to start special education for a child that meets qualifications. A good quality private preschool certainly WILL work with special needs children! ours has several downs kids, autistic kids, etc.