Is this Frazzled Parent Syndrome or something requiring more thought?

((((hugs)))). BTDT. This age is so hard when they come with issues. Mine finally changed completely when she started school. We had the same issues of hour long plus tantrums and nothing would stop it. I took everything out of her room except the bed, so when she went on a destructive streak, she had a place to go where there was nothing to break. I kept doing the same thing over and over again in regards to consequences for behavior. When mine was 2, I literally put her back into time-out over 40 times just for one instance of TO. It was an hour later that she finally stayed there for her 2 mintues. I also get the crazed Mom thing. It is because there is never any down time for us. We are on guard constantly. The anxiety level is extreme and that makes for stressed out parents. Some days were better than others. I wish I knew the answer because I too read every book I could and nothing worked to truly make it better. Age made it better. Being in school really made it better.