Question regarding biological father's rights

Knowing him is one thing -- but EVERY SINGLE MOVE is detrimental to a child. If he is stable and happy and yes no matter who you blame your husband chose not to be a parent to this child to this point. Now he is stable and has stable parents -- you need to put HIS needs first. Send a picture and a letter and ask for contact. He is not "your boy" -- he is a child, with a very complicated history and that deserves to be respected