Advice on moving towards more open adoption

KPBH beat me to the punch. Very good advice, imo! Have you ever talked to your DC's also adopted sibs' families? I just ask this because I had a dear friend who adopted a baby recently and was upset that the two prior families (who adopted two older kids) did not keep in touch with bmom. well, it became apparent very quickly why that was the case. I am not saying that is the case here, but maybe something to explore/think about. I hope you are able to work out an arrangement that works out best for everyone! Good luck!