Ahhh. Manipulation at it's best.

January 26, 2013

CaddoRose

We always do a party at home for our foster kids. I had one boy who had been here for 3 days and had a birthday. I did what I could for him and invited some of the neighborhood kids. As for providing things for a visit with parents, I might bring a cake,but it won't be anything super special unless I happen to have the decorations they asked for in my stash.(I make and decorate special cakes for friends instead of buying presents)Otherwise, it would be whatever I feel like making. Often parents have this false sense that we as foster parents are rich and compared to them, I guess we are, but that doesn't mean I will spend mega$$ on a cake for their visit. That's their job to do that. I think it's part of them being able to show that they can parent. Seriously. How hard is it to get a cake mix and some frosting in a can?

pretty hard for some of them. when my klittle guy turned 4 (3rd bday with us) he had an overnight visit with mom, she promised a party with her daughter and grandkids, gifts and cake. when he came back he said 'she didn't have a party forme, you did. ' i asked her thinking surely he was confused and she said they just got too busy in the two days adn one night she had him to actually make a cake and blow out candles.