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Loving4ward
Yea - I used to be anti-meds too. (although I certainly would never have told someone that they made a bad choice - it was just something I thought I would never do)But I had a little boy come to my home who at 5 did not know his alphabet, his colors, any numbers and who was violent, throwing major temper tantrums and basically out of control. I spent 8 months trying therapy, all the parenting techniques suggested by everyone under the sun and nothing worked. We got him evaluated and there was no doubt he is ADHD and possibly oppositional defiant but they didn't want to label that. So we put him on meds. It was not a decision I took lightly. I cried about it, prayed about, sought counsel from others and realized it was best for him.He is doing much better in school now and is learning his letters, numbers and colors and there is a possibility they might actually send him to 1st grade now - something they would have never considered before he started his ADHD meds....So unless you have walked a mile in the shoes of someone dealing with a child like this - you can get off your high horse.
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ubringmejoy
Sorry you took offense to my OPINION about drugging a **** child. Giving a child who is 5, 6, 7 or 8 YO anti psychotic medications when their still growing and developing, in my OPINION is irresponsible, its child abuse and its the easy out. ADHD is NOT a biology disorder, itҒs ALL mental and the best way to address that is with discipline, rules, patients, therapy and love. But most foster parents (not all) these days arent willing to offer that, their not committed to these kids, you know it, I know it, and itҒs just easier for us to just label our kids ADHDӔ to justify putting them on prescription medication and not addressing the underlining issues. Most kids who enter into the foster care system are in good mental health prior to entering into CPS, but strangely by the time most are adopted, emancipated or aged out their so dependent on medication and havent develop or been taught any type of coping skills, so guess what? Thatґs why they act out the way they do. Its that simple. I was raised by old school parents, the kind who raised their kids with common sense and not with intellect, theirs a fundamental difference. so I guess when you say ғcome off your high horses I guess what you really mean is lower my parenting standards, sorry not going happen.
I'm sorry that you are both suffering. I can only believe that the child has no control over the crying. You know I support you , and in this case I still do. I want to offer the perspective that there might not be a "discipline method" for drug-induced crying. I appreciate that you don't have 100% control over what the child takes medication-wize. Even us newbies know that there are FPs who've been written up for refusing to give FPs psych meds! Are you able to try a "Children's Hospital" ? Not sure if you are close to Dayton or Cleveland? To encourage you, I do know of a family who went through 3 different regimines with their FC and the 3rd blend of meds. worked. They changed docs and went to a Children's Hospital...
ubringmejoy
Sorry you took offense to my OPINION about drugging a **** child. Giving a child who is 5, 6, 7 or 8 YO anti psychotic medications when their still growing and developing, in my OPINION is irresponsible, it’s child abuse and its the easy out. ADHD is NOT a biology disorder, it’s ALL mental and the best way to address that is with discipline, rules, patients, therapy and love. But most foster parents (not all) these days aren’t willing to offer that, their not committed to these kids, you know it, I know it, and it’s just easier for us to just label our kids “ADHD” to justify putting them on prescription medication and not addressing the underlining issues. Most kids who enter into the foster care system are in good mental health prior to entering into CPS, but strangely by the time most are adopted, emancipated or aged out their so dependent on medication and haven’t develop or been taught any type of coping skills, so guess what? That‘s why they act out the way they do. It’s that simple. I was raised by old school parents, the kind who raised their kids with common sense and not with intellect, theirs a fundamental difference. so I guess when you say “come off your high horses” I guess what you really mean is lower my parenting standards, sorry not going happen.
I was raised by old school parents, the kind who raised their kids with common sense and not with intellect
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OhioFosterMom
I'm sorry that you are both suffering. I can only believe that the child has no control over the crying. You know I support you , and in this case I still do. I want to offer the perspective that there might not be a "discipline method" for drug-induced crying. I appreciate that you don't have 100% control over what the child takes medication-wize. Even us newbies know that there are FPs who've been written up for refusing to give FPs psych meds! Are you able to try a "Children's Hospital" ? Not sure if you are close to Dayton or Cleveland? To encourage you, I do know of a family who went through 3 different regimines with their FC and the 3rd blend of meds. worked. They changed docs and went to a Children's Hospital...
Loving4ward
Your are absolutely entitled to your opinion but you didn't give an educated one - you just judged me. And you still are. Your opinion is based on a non-drug exposed child raised from birth in a loving stable environment. And in my experience most kids do not enter foster care in a normal mental state...I would love to see the studies that back your opinion on that up. And of course they develop issues while in foster care - in our case we have a kid who is torn by his loyalty to his mom and the desire to live in the stable loving environment he has now seen. The difference is I DIDN'T raise him. I got him at 5 after he had been neglected by a mom on drugs for 5 years. And I spent 8 months trying YOUR way...and guess what...it didn't work. So I sought help from professionals. In your introductory thread you got very upset with people who gave you advise based on their EXPERIENCES...but you are attacking me on something you have no experience with. you seemed over your head in that thread but I didn't offer an opinion because I have never been a single foster parent or fostered teens. In my experience, foster parenting changes your opinions a lot and I have learned not to judge b/c I usually end up eating my words.
OhioFosterMom
I'm sorry that you are both suffering. I can only believe that the child has no control over the crying. You know I support you , and in this case I still do. I want to offer the perspective that there might not be a "discipline method" for drug-induced crying. I appreciate that you don't have 100% control over what the child takes medication-wize. Even us newbies know that there are FPs who've been written up for refusing to give FPs psych meds! Are you able to try a "Children's Hospital" ? Not sure if you are close to Dayton or Cleveland? To encourage you, I do know of a family who went through 3 different regimines with their FC and the 3rd blend of meds. worked. They changed docs and went to a Children's Hospital...