Custody vs. Adoption

After meeting with the attorney we are going to pursue a few things...but it looks like we will have to decide - custody or withdraw our motion and force their hands.Truthfully after meeting with our attorney - I am leaning towards custody...1. CS would be out of our lives!!!! That is huge.2. It would be decided in May and he feels that we could move forward with adoption in a year.3. We get all medical decisions4. Visitation would be at our discretion and we would be allowed to put the same supervision restrictions on her that CS does5. We can travel with him - and even get passports6. We could legally change his name if we wanted but since adoption would be likely in a year we probably wouldn't do it.The biggest issue will be medical and subsidies....we are checking to see if with custody we can put him on our insurance. We think that maybe the legal bills vs. the subsidy might not make continuing with CS a good idea.Finally - if we just settle this with custody in May - then CS is out of it and won't have to try to find family or give her services, etc....