Where is the line?

[FONT="Trebuchet MS"][/FONT]Hoping for some advice and guidance... Emom and I have spoken once on the phone, and text a handful of times since the match about a month ago. She is very friendly, and open about her current legal issues. (she has 2 pending legal cases due to drugs). She is not honest about her current "occasional" drug use with me, (although, to her defense, I have not asked outright), and she is honest with the SW. It has been about 10 days since we last text. We talked about DH and I flying to her state to visit as she requested, and if she still wanted that. She seemed excited about it, and even said she would schedule a dr appt while we were in town so we could attend. So I think everything is good between us. I have sent her two cards, which the SW said she really liked, and she even text to say thank you, mentioning that is was nice to get them, especially before court. Does anyone have any advice as to how often to initiate contact with the Emom? I want her to know that we are thinking of her, and hear about how she is feeling, if she needs anything, how she is emotionally, etc, but I also do not want her to feel like I am overbearing. Thanks for any guidance you may have. :clap: