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We are a caucasion couple with 4 bio sons and one adopted AA daughter. We adopted H almost 2 years ago. She is doing great, but does frequently comment on being the only brown one in most of the places she goes. DH and I have thought and prayed about this for a long time. For this reason and many others, we decided to renew our homestudy and look for another child to add to our family. Our only limitations were, that it be a girl, younger than H (who just turned 8), and she must be brown. We submitted our homestudy to the same county H was from in December and were presented with M on May 1st. We are still in the visitation phase. M had her first overnight July 4th. It went well and H is thrilled with M. It is so sweet to see them together. Over their lifetime, they will share something the rest of us will never be able to fully appreciate or understand. In my heart this is very important. Has anyone else adopted a second partially so the first doesn't have to be the only? I'd like to hear how these relationships are working.
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Ours is a little different situation, but I am having many of the same thoughts you are.
I am caucasian, my husband is African (not American so I don't use 'AA' but you get the picture :D ) Our bio daughter is brown - a mix of both of us but most think she is adopted. DramaMama is 4. We are adopting our niece WaitingOne and she is now 3. She is fully African.
Since my husband works out of town, it will be just me most of the time with the girls, a white momma with brown girls. I am glad they will have each other as they grow. I am already seeing that DramaMama is aware of the differences between us, and like any little girl she wants to be like Mommy. The other day we had :hissy: because she wanted me to give her a long straight ponytail. I know Mommy's are magic, but I am not quite that good! I am hoping that when WaitingOne is here she will realize that she is not so different within our family.
Of course, if my husband was home full time they would see the same colour, but being male, and being Daddy, there are differences there too. He simply cannot relate on the hair and clothes etc. LOL
Our situation is similar. I'm Caucasian and my DH is AA (both A's :) ) our son is full AA, but as my DH is really dark, our son's coloring is somewhere in between us. He's learning his colors, and he says he is "brown," DH is "dark brown," and "mommy is peach!" Most people think he's our bio. We actually received a call recently about an emom who is expecting a Caucasian baby, and even though we'd told our SWer we are open to any race, this call made us realize that we really want both of our children to be AA or biracial/AA. Like Spunky said, we want them to have each other, a shared experience as they grow.
spunkyone
Ours is a little different situation, but I am having many of the same thoughts you are.I am caucasian, my husband is African (not American so I don't use 'AA' but you get the picture :D ) Our bio daughter is brown - a mix of both of us but most think she is adopted. DramaMama is 4. We are adopting our niece WaitingOne and she is now 3. She is fully African. Since my husband works out of town, it will be just me most of the time with the girls, a white momma with brown girls. I am glad they will have each other as they grow. I am already seeing that DramaMama is aware of the differences between us, and like any little girl she wants to be like Mommy. The other day we had :hissy: because she wanted me to give her a long straight ponytail. I know Mommy's are magic, but I am not quite that good! I am hoping that when WaitingOne is here she will realize that she is not so different within our family. Of course, if my husband was home full time they would see the same colour, but being male, and being Daddy, there are differences there too. He simply cannot relate on the hair and clothes etc. LOL