Biological sibling contact; what's "right" and "wrong"?

Hi Maryjane,I see this is an old thread and haven't read anyone's post here but yours. I am in the opposite boat, as I am the one who was given up and am considering contacting my paternal siblings. In general, I would say, he is fifty years old, yes, contact him, don't waste any time. However, in your case, I would consider your mother. How is your relationship with her? Can you have an open, honest conversation with her about WHY she thinks you should wait? Is it because she is feeling nervous about it? Is your brother angry? Family relationships can be so complicated, and I would never want to see you hurt your relationship with your own mother. But- if she doesn't have a good reason why you should wait- if I were you, I would reach out. I for one would have been absolutely thrilled to have a sibling reach out to me. I have wondered about them for forty years.Good luck and let us know how it goes.Marissamarrisa@findmyfam.com