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I dont know where to start҅I see all the categories on this site and I fit more than several. I am not sure where to post or if anyone even cares...
I am adopted.
I am also a birth-mother of a son.
Both adoptions happened in Nevada though Catholic Charities.
I have no information, the dates seem to be changed or fabricated. For many years now, I have sought out information only to encounter smiling faces that tell me We are sorry but that information is privateӔ.
I feel violated and raped of my basic human rights. Why should I go through life faceless in mirror, void of my past and my future at the hands of others who think they knew best?
What really makes me angry is that most of the people working in these agencies and passing state laws are not adopted and have no idea of the pain, sadness and loss an adoptee or birth parent feels with time.
I am not even sure a reunion is the goal, but after a certain time in life has passed anybody should have the right to know the reason or circumstances for their existence.
I am sure that smug girl behind the counter of the adoption agency can read my file over lunch and laugh but I will live my life never knowing and denied that opportunityTo know who I am and where I came from.
As a birth-mother, I want my son to know me...I was 15 and I regret every moment he was not part of my life. I want him to know that if he chooses.
And yes, I am well aware of œnon-identifying info and it really is of no help. In fact, for me it is torturous with vague details.
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First of all, I'd like to welcome you to the forums here at adoption.com. I've made a lot of friends here over the years, and I'm sure you will too if you keep participating!
I hear you loud and clear about adoptees not having any legal rights to knowledge about their original identity. I think we're going to see a lot of legislative changes on the state level as time goes by. People within reform circles have been working very hard in recent years to ensure that every adoptee can access their own original birth certificates, as well as their medical and social histories. It's frustrating how much time it's taking, but I think we're going to have some breakthroughs in the next decade.
As far as this website goes, none of the boards are segregated in any way. All three sides of the triad are welcome to respond to any thread they wish. One of the beauties about this place is that we can all gain insight into all three sides: adoptee, birth/first parent, and adoptive parent. On the adoptee and birth/first mom forums, the most active subforums are Adoptee Support and Birth Mother Support.
I hope you stick around and get to know us. I promise no one will bite!! :loveyou:
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Hi NVA, Like Raven said you can post anywhere. Belleinblue is also both an adoptee and a first mom. Frosty is too but she seldom comes by anymore and I'm sure I have missed others who share two positions. As to your son, you can take steps now to ensure he does have access. While you are doing that you can list yourself on the registry as well. Lastly, join the Adoptee Rights Coalition and find the state chapter to work towards reversing the laws. [URL="http://www.dcfs.state.nv.us/dcfs_guide_reunionregistry.htm"]http://www.dcfs.state.nv.us/dcfs_guide_reunionregistry.htm[/URL] Applications[URL="http://www.dcfs.state.nv.us/Forms-Adoption/AdopteeApplication.pdf"]http://www.dcfs.state.nv.us/Forms-Adoption/AdopteeApplication.pdf[/URL] [URL="http://www.dcfs.state.nv.us/Forms-Adoption/ParentApplication.pdf"]http://www.dcfs.state.nv.us/Forms-Adoption/ParentApplication.pdf[/URL] From a practical nature I would double check the applications are actually part of the registry about six months after you send them and keep copies of what you sent... You should also ask Catholic Charities for a waiver to put in your son's file so he isn't turned away. Here's a link to the testimony in 2003 where laws were tried to be changed so there is an active adoptee rights group. [URL="http://leg.state.nv.us/Session/72nd2003/Interim/StatCom/ChildFamAdopt/exhibits/11891Q.pdf"]http://leg.state.nv.us/Session/72nd2003/Interim/StatCom/ChildFamAdopt/exhibits/11891Q.pdf[/URL] Kind regards,Dickons
[FONT=Tahoma][FONT=Tahoma][FONT=Tahoma]THE NEVADA ADOPTION REUNION REGISTRY[/FONT][/FONT][/FONT][FONT=Times New Roman] [/FONT][FONT=Tahoma][FONT=Tahoma][FONT=Tahoma] The Nevada Adoption Reunion Registry was established in 1979 and is maintained by the Division of Child and Family Services. This mutual consent registry assists adult adoptee, birth parents, and relatives in conducting searches for each other if the other eligible party or parties have filed applications agreeing to the release of identifying information. Those eligible to register are: Birth parents who relinquished their rights or consented to a childs adoption through a public or private adoption agency in Nevada, or whose parental rights were terminated by court order in Nevada. Adult adopted persons age 18 and over, whose adoption was finalized in a Nevada Court. Birth relatives related within the third degree of consanguinity of the adoptee. Written consent from the birth parent is required before identifying information regarding the adoptee can be released to a relative.All eligible parties must have applications on file for the matching process to proceed. Individuals may withdraw their application at any time. [/FONT][/FONT][/FONT]