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Amid an entirely separate crisis (my mother's second husband dying unexpectedly) it was revealed that the man I grew up with knowing to be my father (we'll call him DM), is in fact not my natural father. DM's name is on my birth certificate but to my knowledge, he never adopted me.
I have some details about my natural father (we'll call him RH) including his name, age, mother's name and where he lived when my mother got pregnant in 1970. I'm pretty sure I've located him, living in the same city, only a couple miles from me!
My question is for those of you who reached out to natural parents . . . how did you do it? I'm not sure he even knows if I exist - my mother is very limited in the details. Did you write a letter? Show up at his doorstep? Call him on the phone? I'm not even 100% certain RH is my natural father. It's all so confusing to me but I really do want to know this man for nothing else than to know my lineage, health history or if I have siblings.
I feel like my life is a made for TV movie. You simply cannot make this S#@! up!
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I would write him a letter explaining what you know. Ask if he knows anything of the situation. I know it would be tempting to show up at his door, but I myself would not like someone to show up at my door unannounced. Is he on facebook? Perhaps you can check him out there and see if there is a resemblance? Good luck!
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