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This website was very helpful in finding information about people even if you don't have a lot of info. You can use date of birth or names or any other information you. MAKE SURE YOU CLICK SHOW ADVANCED SEARCH OPTIONS. IT gives you a lot more choices to put information in.
[url=http://www.dobsearch.com/]Find People Fast - Free Preview - DOBsearch.com[/url]
I was able to find my birth mom with her birth date and first name only. When 3 hits came up, I knew which one was her because she told me that she had a twin brother and his name. His name and other family members were listed so it was easy to narrow it down.
I am 24 years old and I was adopted when I was born. I've always known that I was adopted but I didn't know many details other than my birth mom's first name. Talking about adoption rarely happened in my house and my adoptive mom did not seem to be very comfortable with the topic so I kept my curiosity to myself. I found myself constantly feeling sad that I was "unwanted" and I felt like I wasn't good enough for anyone if my birth mother didn't want me. It affected me in relationships and dating for my whole life. When I was 19, I tried to use the internet to search, but it was nearly impossible with just a first name. I assumed that my parents didn't know any information because they never mentioned anything. My mom had told me that she had "a picture" when I was about 14 years old, but I didn't feel comfortable asking to see it so I didn't. I also went to the court house to ask them what to do and they told me I could write a letter to a judge and have my records opened but that I may need a lawyer. I mostly just gave up because I felt it was all so complicated and I didn't want to tell my parents that I wanted to find my birth mother.
When I finally did tell my parents how I felt 5 years later, they gave me a whole bag of things that my birth mother had sent when I was little like cards up until my 8th birthday and letters about why I was adopted and pictures of my birth mother. They told me that they wouldn't be upset if I contacted my birth mother. I was soooooo relieved that they are not upset with me, it was a huge weight lifted off my shoulders. There was so much information in the bag that they had, that I was easily able to find an address for my birth mother. I wrote a letter to my birth mother and included my e-mail address and home address.
She responded a few days later by e-mail and say that she was so happy to hear from me and that she thinks about me every day. I was so shocked that she felt that way and that everything I assumed was wrong. It hasn't even been a full week since we started talking, but I feel like my whole life has changed. I am so happy to have her in my life and I feel so lucky that she cares about me. We started out with e-mail and we are going to talk on the phone this weekend. She was willing to talk on the phone right away but I didn't feel ready. I am glad that I didn't rush it because I think it makes the experience easier if you take it slow and allow yourself time to adjust.
It amazed me that the information I needed to find her wasn't in a court house or lost in internet-land, it was in my house the whole time.
I feel like I have spent my whole life worrying about if I would ever have this opportunity and it has been a million times better than I have imagined. I am trying to think of ways to describe it. I feel like I won the lottery. Anyone else have a similar experience and feel like you can't even put it into words or have come up with a really good way to describe it?
Just read this that is amazing ! Im 24 and looking on DOB search too there were 170 results so its a little depressing..... I have seen the info my parents have and its not much and I agree on the court thing its way too much!
Happy for you!
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Yes now I am searching for my birth father and it is so confusing! I am getting hundreds of results because i don't have a lot of information. But using anything to narrow it down can help. I am trying to be patient because I am hopeful that it will work out in the end and just keep searching!
When looking for birth family members, always try
[url=http://www.almasociety.org]The ALMA Society[/url] because they can help with locating or provide research information. It is a one time fee for a lifetime membership of benefits. They are a non profit and one of the oldest in the reunion world.
They located my half brother for me.