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Well hello there sorry been a while I am still not used to this new form of forum, but here goes... Lots been going on with Lil miss and lil man mom got TPRed but she is appealing it. They wanted to transition the children over to the other home with older siblings that is not going so well lil miss flat out told older half siblings I don't want to live with you guys. She been refusing therapist conversation about it to the point she walks away and says no. On the other hand last week was court and no one but CW and my hubby showed up :( .....weekend visits with siblings they go alright but I don't see any connection with lil miss and lil man with other foster parents it's not there so CW is rethinking this entire moving thing.... Now here is my dilemma Ballerina's parents are not working anything and CW wishes to speak to us about that to see if we can be resource parents for Ballerina. My husband flat out said NO. I am back and forth feeling horrible because she has been with us almost a year and she has come a long way. I am at a loss what to do I asked him to think about it and he said NO there I thought about it answer still NO. However he said a YEAH to lil miss and lil man so I am confused.
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I'm not sure what's up with the snide comment about asking her husband. She's giving us an update not asking us to read her husband's mind.OP I have been following your story on here (though never able to post much). It seems like time has gone by so quickly! However this turns out I hope everything will turn out for the best for you.
I'm not sure what's up with the snide comment about asking her husband. She's giving us an update not asking us to read her husband's mind.OP I have been following your story on here (though never able to post much). It seems like time has gone by so quickly! However this turns out I hope everything will turn out for the best for you.
Listen to your husband. If he does not have patience for her, it will show in the way he treats her as opposed to the other two. Sometimes people (even children) just do not get along and there's nothing wrong with that. Guilt is a terrible basis for any relationship. Besides, how old is Ballerina? It seems like a child that young doesn't "need" you to adopt her. Once she is legally free, there will be any number of families who will love her and have patience for her.
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Listen to your husband. If he does not have patience for her, it will show in the way he treats her as opposed to the other two. Sometimes people (even children) just do not get along and there's nothing wrong with that. Guilt is a terrible basis for any relationship. Besides, how old is Ballerina? It seems like a child that young doesn't "need" you to adopt her. Once she is legally free, there will be any number of families who will love her and have patience for her.
I am sorry that I came of snarky. That was not my intention. The title is "mixed emotions" and she said she was confused. Also, she said she is at a loss as to what to do. I suggested asking her husband and talking about it. Maybe I misunderstood. So, here is my "support and advice." Mixed feelings about a placement are normal. I would not suggest going forward with a "yes" to adoption unless you are both TOTALLY on board. It would not be fair to you or ballerina. I would guess that some of the mixed feelings are being more confused by your possibly loosing lil man and lil miss. That throws an entire new roller coaster on top of the other. So, my advice is still to talk to your husband and explore his reasons and emotions behind saying no. I would NOT force anything on him, though. Ballerina needs to be wanted and loved by 2 parents:)
I am sorry that I came of snarky. That was not my intention. The title is "mixed emotions" and she said she was confused. Also, she said she is at a loss as to what to do. I suggested asking her husband and talking about it. Maybe I misunderstood. So, here is my "support and advice." Mixed feelings about a placement are normal. I would not suggest going forward with a "yes" to adoption unless you are both TOTALLY on board. It would not be fair to you or ballerina. I would guess that some of the mixed feelings are being more confused by your possibly loosing lil man and lil miss. That throws an entire new roller coaster on top of the other. So, my advice is still to talk to your husband and explore his reasons and emotions behind saying no. I would NOT force anything on him, though. Ballerina needs to be wanted and loved by 2 parents:)