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One of my friends has five adopted children, all of whom were placed in very open adoptions. She's very passionate about open adoption and works hard to keep her children connected to their birth parents. Last year one of her kid's birth mothers said, "I don't want any more contact." My friend was devastated. And deeply worried about how that would affect her child. How would you handle a situation like that?
That's a really tough situation. You can't force the birth parent to be involved. The only thing you can really do is be kind and accepting and make sure the door is always open should they change their mind. I know of a situation where the mom promised never to change her phone number so the birth parents could get ahold of them if they decided they did want contact. To my knowledge they haven't had contact, all they can do is hope.
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