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Whether you are a birth parent, adoptee, or adoptive parent, when the role adoption plays in your life comes up, you will very frequently hear "Oh, I'm so sorry I didn't know!" .... why are you sorry? I don't quite get that, even though I know it's just coming from a time where adoption was a taboo subject. How do you explain that adoption is not something to be sorry for, but something complex and great that has influenced your life for good?
I told my cousin, who relinquished a baby when she was a teen, that I was sorry for the loss she suffered.
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millie58, I think that's a very appropriate response. I placed a baby 2 years ago, and it means the world to me when people recognize that it was such a huge loss for me. I guess my question is more along the lines of people who think adoption in general is bad and that it shouldn't be discuessed.