Decision Making

My first husband and I were licensed to foster and when we made the decision to go that route, we heavily considered our son's thoughts and feelings. He wanted to be the oldest -- which wasn't an issue, because we felt it was important to preserve birth order. He wanted only boys -- there was a huge need for sibling groups and more specifically boys in our area, so we didn't have an issue with that. His other concerns were that we'd love them more, etc -- those are just things we had to talk about. I'd say it took us about 6 months to kick around the idea and talk about it with him before he was on board -- and that's also important, because the social worker included him in our home visits and homestudy -- asking about his thoughts on the topic. They do talk to everyone in the home and if the kids aren't on board, it's just NOT going to happen!