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Hello...I am looking for input on sibling group experience . My husband and I have our first placement. He is a toddler that is part of a sibling group. He came to live with us after 2 months in another home. In that home he showed aggression towards their bio kids and his sibling . Since moving in our home we have not seen any of the behaviors that were reported. However in visits with siblings and birth parents he does yell and hit siblings but it is not addressed in that environment . So now we are in a crossroads We are open to having another child come into our home. We have always been open to one of his siblings coming to live with us but the old caseworker felt he needed to be an only child. Everyone involved now agrees another child in our home is appropriate . The question just is should his sibling be moved in with us after being in another pre adoptive home for 7 months. My heart hurts at the thought of that family losing the sibling but my heart hurts even more that our child will never be reunited with his bio sibling because of behaviors he showed his first months in care. I just don't know what to advocate for anymore .
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Hello...I am looking for input on sibling group experience . My husband and I have our first placement. He is a toddler that is part of a sibling group. He came to live with us after 2 months in another home. In that home he showed aggression towards their bio kids and his sibling . Since moving in our home we have not seen any of the behaviors that were reported. However in visits with siblings and birth parents he does yell and hit siblings but it is not addressed in that environment . So now we are in a crossroads We are open to having another child come into our home. We have always been open to one of his siblings coming to live with us but the old caseworker felt he needed to be an only child. Everyone involved now agrees another child in our home is appropriate . The question just is should his sibling be moved in with us after being in another pre adoptive home for 7 months. My heart hurts at the thought of that family losing the sibling but my heart hurts even more that our child will never be reunited with his bio sibling because of behaviors he showed his first months in care. I just don't know what to advocate for anymore .
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We took in a 23 month old, 3 yr old and 5 yr old sibling group. All had been separated because the youngest was not thriving and needed special attention. The middle was aggressive and unsuitable with other children. The oldest was a little momma and was constantly controlling of her sisters. That being said, we took them together. They have their issues but they needed each other. Siblings fight, bicker, disagree and get upset at each other. They also connect, relate and rely on each other in a way another adult can’t. Siblings need to stay together and it will be an uphill battle to teach each boundaries, how to express their emotions and give each the love/attention they need. It can be done! Our girls are stronger and better adapted together. Best decision we made for our littles.