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Hi Sarah,
I can't help you find your birth mom, but I can tell you it could be difficult to find her, if you ever do find her - try to be patient. I'm an adoptee and a birth mom so I totally understand both sides of the coin.
It's a lot easier to find birth fathers because normally, their last name doesn't change. Not so for birth moms, their name could change multiple times, depending on how many times they marry and remarry.
It sounds harsh for me to say this, here's the reality: It's very possible that your birth mom doesn't want to be found. There's a very good reason or many, that she put you up for adoption in the first place, and if your adoption was a closed one, she may want to keep it that way.
I hope this offers you some insight and understanding. I'm sorry if what I said causes you pain or takes away your hope. Reality sucks.
I wish you all the best in your search, and that God will give you peace and understanding in this.
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