23 and me showed me as father of unknown daughter from 30 years ago. She is open to meeting birth parents, should I?

Millie58....I think you are my new best friend...This is really hard...there could be no good answers to apply to anything here. I do like the idea of reaching out as a connection with out saying I am father. Really sad, as so much I see is about the birth mother not birth father. Sometimes the birth father is not given a choice, is not part of the process, for what ever reason the birth mother views as bad. Maybe sometimes birth mother view is wrong???I have lost 30 years of a life, I will never know....because everyone is focused on birth mother...Could I have influenced....maybeCould I have taken her in a different direction...maybewould she still have my soul....yes, and she always will....my hope is there...