What chance do we have?

July 20, 2020

This. This was brought up in MAPP class. It’s possible these relatives didn’t know ahead of time about the kids. I feel for you. My first placement was sisters who were removed to be with siblings. I was devastated but it was the best thing for all involved.

I feel for you, however, i feel that your chances are very slim. If their application was approved then they have been vetted and its only been a year. I know a year has to seem forever to you but it isnt to a child. Staying with a family member is a huge deal for a child. I would say not knowing all the details can you still be involved in the childs life if you help with transition? I would say if you love the child make it as easy as possible for everyone involved. I am so sorry and i pray that you get your forever child soon.

Also, a sad truth is that if they have been vetted and approved then they have been in the picture in the background and i am so sorry you are just learning about it. Unfortunately, that is the typical way it happens so the foster parents dont bail out on the child before they figure out what is happening with the child. This relative must have been fighting for the kid long before a judge just says yes. I know that doesnt help in your heart but hopefully you can make a connection and stay involved.