Adopted Child wants to come home

It seems to me if your reason for sending your daughter to her grandparents are legit you should have went with Temporary gaurdianship or custody, which would have allowed you to return to court when your husband returned. if you had a lawyer during these proceedings im sure he or she and the judge explained to you that ADOPTION is final.As for sneaking around and seeing your daughter it is WRONG, and its also teaching her to be deceitful to her Parents, if you believe there is truth to her allegations as a concerned individual why havent you called the authorities and allowed them to check into the allegations? its obvious you do not believe that your child is being harmed or that would have been your first step to try and get her some help.