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I am the single adoptive parent of a beatuiful 3 year-old who is seriously considering adopting another infant. I feel my daughter should have a sibling and I really feel, for the most part, that I could handle and have enough love for an additional child. My present support system will continue to help me with my second child. My major concerns are being able to afford childcare for the new child and having the energy to raise two active little ones. How much more tired can I be? I have been able to balance job and home thus far. But I really haven't done too much for myself. I haven't been able to find the time. I would appreciate hearing from anyone who is also contemplating adopting additional children or who have already. I guess what I really would like to know is how different is it going to be raising two children as opposed to one. And also what else should I be considering in making this decision?
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Originally Posted By debbieI adopted my two children at birth. The oldest is 5 and the youngest is 2yrs 8 months (both boys). Though I am incredibly busy, it was the best decision I could have made. The boys play together and keep each other company when I am busy in the house. A mohter and son is too small a family. When I am no longer around, they will have each other. They also can support each other as they deal with being adopted and withe having no father. It can be done and you will not regret it!
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Originally Posted By CarolI'm a single adoptive parent of six children. Actually,my 13 year old son died in 1996 and since then I've adoptedone more--the last. So really, I feel I have seven.In many ways having more than one child is easier than justone. How much tireder can you get? Not much! But I think I'm less tired now with six than I was with one. Theyentertain each other (also fight with each other) and inmany ways it's easier on the mental health, I've found--when all your eggs are in one basket, your mood rises andfalls with how that one little chickie is doing. Ifyou have more than one, SOMEONE is always doing okay tobalance out the one that's nuts! It takes the pressureoff the one single child, too, I think.Downside--the groceries go faster, chaos is louder, it'sharder to go places and do things--but well worth the effort.I'd say you should certainly go for it if that's what you want. I've never regretted it for a minute.
Originally Posted By DasmeAs a matter of fact I just started the preliminaries of going through the process again. I contacted the agency and just sent in some of the initial forms today. I decided that this is what I really wanted and I am really looking forward to it. Thanks for your responses!
Can I adopt (more or less take custody of) two children at the same time? Both are boys one is 2 and the other is 3 1/2 yrs old. Many people, as well as I, dont think that their mother is fit to take care of them. Their parents are seperated and I dont know if that father has time to take care of them. I am of no relation BUT I love both little boys to death and i would love to have them in my life. Four of the mothers older childern and her ex-husband are trying to get the boys taken away and I was curious if it would be possiable for me to adopt them? Please if someone can help me I would most greatly appreaciate it.Thank you for you time and help!
Originally Posted By PamelaLike you, I am the adoptive parent of a 3 year old and would love another child (and a playmate for my daughter). However, I am holding off right now because of money. Childcare costs run me about $665 a month. How are you going to do this cost? Is there something I am missing? I want to adopt but quality of life for my daughter and I is important to me. Yet, I would love to parent another little one. Please give me some advise. Thanks. PamelaPRSBES@aol.com
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Hi my name is Chris and I to have a thre year old adopted son he was adopted at 6 months.I can really relate I to do not want my son to be an only child and as a single male adopting a daughter is on my mind.Everyone I speak to thinks I am crazy yet I am sick of wating for the right person and I want to try.My advice is listen to yourself only you really no you and your limits.