Questions to Ask a Birthmom

Tweetybird, What are you looking for in an adoptive family? We just recently were certified last week and I guess as I read through our "Dear Birthmother" letter, I always think there's something else a birthmother would want. My husband and I wrote it from our heart, which is what my sister-in-law (a birthmother as well) advised us to do. Another friend of mine, also a birthmother, said when she was reading through letters that she wanted a family that wouldn't think of her daughter as second best, that she would be number 1 in thier eyes. Are there really people who would suggest that an adopted baby would be 2nd best to another child? I guess I just don't understand that. Any children we ever adopt or ever may possibly have biologically will always be equal.