Listening

This is so, so important. Not only do children need to be able to talk about their biological family for the health of their own identity, they also need to talk about it to have a good relationship with you. Feeling shut down when they talk about something that is important to them has the potential to cause some real damage to your relationship with your adopted child. Birth families are not a threat, they are part of your child. Accepting them with love means accepting your child with love. And the child is what comes first.