Once placement day is planned, the actual placement can be a really beautiful, sacred experience. One of our birth mothers planned to the point of preparing a basket to go along with the baby to the adoptive parents. Included in the basket were pieces of memorabilia for the baby to grasp onto throughout his years. These included letters to the baby from both the birth mother and birth father, as well as other things to help him know his birth parents.
At placement, love is often abundant and sweet memories can be made. There is healing to take place after placement, but the actual moment can be tender and beautiful. Having an advocate or two with the birth mother could help her feel supported during a difficult time. Planning for placement day, adding the birth mother’s specific preferences for everything from what the child wears to how much time is spent together will make for a good situation. “Bittersweet” is the perfect description for placement day.