Thank You for Reading This Letter

Ice skating at Christmas
Our names are Abby and Jeff and we want to start by thanking you for taking the time to read our letter. We know that you are in the process of making a serious decision and really admire you for considering adoption. We hope that by getting to know us more you will feel confident that we will be loving and supportive parents.

Should you generously and unselfishly choose us, we would be forever grateful to you and we would make your child the center of our universe.

We both love children and have always dreamed of becoming parents. Should you generously and unselfishly choose us, we would be forever grateful to you and we would make your child the center of our universe. We always knew that we wanted to be parents and have dreamed of the day that we would have a child. Though we have not been able to start our family yet, we are hopeful that we will be able to become parents through adoption. We know that love is what makes a family and we have lots of love to give a child! Abby's Mom was adopted when she was a baby so adoption is already a great part of our family. We are so excited at the idea of Abby's Mom being able to share this special bond with this child.

We met through mutual friends when I (Abby) was 29 and Jeff was 35 and immediately hit it off. I was instantly attracted to Jeff’s handsome looks, his calm, confident manner as well as his fun, playful spirit. Jeff says that he thought I was very pretty and was attracted to my carefree attitude and positive outlook on life.

Our dog, Neville, is a little Jack Russell-Chihuahua mix who is always making us laugh. He is snuggly and kind and loves to sit on our laps and steal food! He is very good with children of all ages and doesn’t even mind getting dressed up in costumes (well, not too much).

After dating for a short time we quickly discovered that we share very similar values. Family is the center of our world. We believe in working hard and providing for our family. Another core value is being thoughtful, kind and considerate to others. We believe strongly in teaching your child to be compassionate and kind to others and to give back to their community. Education is also very important to us and we cannot wait to nurture your child’s love of learning through reading, supporting them in school and letting them explore the world. Finally, we both believe that being playful and enjoying life is important and want to give your child the chance to find the things that make them happy (even if that means waking up at 4 am to drive them to swim practice!).
On our honeymoon in Aruba.

On our honeymoon in Aruba.

About Us

Jeff talks about Abby

When I first met Abby I was immediately drawn to her beauty, outgoing personality, and adventurous spirit. The first night we met she was not afraid to challenge me to a game of pool (and she won). I admire that she followed her dreams which led her to school in Scotland and her career as a psychologist.

Jeff has two nieces and two nephews who are beyond excited to have another cousin to play with.

I've never met someone so genuinely happy about their job and career in which, as a psychologist, she is helping children every day understand themselves and reach their potential. Abby is always up for an adventure and trying new things. She loves the outdoors and taking Neville for walks to the park or beach or hiking trails around our house. I love how outgoing Abby is and she has made many friends here and abroad during her time in Scotland. At our wedding Abby had 6 bridesmaids, all from different times in her life which I think shows how important her friends are to her and the time and effort she puts into keeping these relationships strong. She is very kind and thoughtful, making cookies and breakfast for her co-workers, buying supplies and games for her kids at school and leaving me funny notes. Despite working hard during the day to help her clients, she doesn’t hesitate to offer this same support to her friends when they need someone to talk to. I have spent a great deal of time with Abby's family and you can tell how close of a bond they have. Abby was especially close to her Grammy, calling her every Sunday to talk about anything that was on their minds. You could hear the laughter and love through the conversation. I also love Abby's goofy and playful side. She has a dance ready for almost every situation and loves a good joke. The one thing Abby wants most of all is to be a mother and having seen Abby interact with our friends' children, my nieces and nephews and her cousin's children, I know she will be incredible.

More About Abby

I have always loved children and was constantly playing with my cousins or babysitting when I was young. This love developed into a career when I earned my graduate degree in psychology in 2009. I now work counseling children, teens and families and find so much joy in my work. I cannot wait to be able to be a mother myself and be able to spend time reading, cooking, hiking and showing your precious child the world, should you choose us!

I was born in New York and lived there until I was 14, when I moved to Vermont. My parents, Bob and Connie, are still happily married and I am very close with them both. My parents are wonderful people. My Mom is one of the kindest people I know and is the first to bring around a meal or offer help when someone is going through a difficult time. My Dad is a hard worker and loves to tell jokes and funny stories. My parents instilled a love of learning in me and I would often spend long hours reading as a child (and an adult). Though they live in Vermont and Florida, I speak to them on the phone several times a week and we see them multiple times a year (and I am sure they will come out even more often to visit their grandchild!) My Mom was adopted when she was a baby so adoption is already a great part of our family. I am so excited at the idea of my Mom being able to share this special bond with this child. I have an older brother, Peter, who lives in New York City. He is very smart and protective and always there for me when I need him. He loves sailing so much that he bought a sailboat and I got to go out with him this summer. It was so much fun and we even got to stay overnight on the boat. I love traveling and have been to Europe, Asia and Australia. I had the opportunity to go to college in Scotland and actually went to the same college where Prince William and Kate Middleton went. They came in my last year and I got to have dinner with the Prince twice! It was so cool! I still have a large group of friends in Scotland and go over to see them yearly. Most of my friends overseas now have kids so it is really fun to visit and see them as they grow.

Abby Talks about Jeff

From the first time I met Jeff I knew that he was an incredible person. Jeff played on a kickball team when I met him and I remember thinking someone who plays kickball as a grown up must be really fun and have a great sense of humor. I was right. Jeff is incredibly fun and playful. He loves to be outside, exploring and being active, especially going skiing in the winter. When we go to the beach with his nieces and nephews, he spends all day playing with them in the water letting them climb on him or building sandcastles on the beach. He makes me laugh every day and even has a silly voice he uses when he pretends to be our dog, Neville. However, the thing I love most about Jeff is that while he is so fun and playful, he is also very responsible. He works hard and always follows through on his promises. I have always felt incredibly safe and secure with Jeff. I know that if he says he will do something, he will do it, no matter what. He will always provide for his family and make sure that we are taken care of. Jeff makes the people around him feel calm and accepted. After meeting him for the first time, all my friends commented on how nice he was and how easy it was to talk to him. Jeff is from a large, loving family. He has two brothers and a sister. We are lucky to get to spend time with them throughout the year and also with them all at the beach each summer. This trip is the highlight of our year. Jeff has two nieces and two nephews who are beyond excited to have another cousin to play with. Jeff’s outlook on life is wonderful and he sees the world as a place to be explored. I think all of these things will make him an incredible father.

More About Jeff

I was born in Connecticut and come from a big family with an older brother Greg, a younger brother, Chris and a younger sister Erica. Greg is married and has four children Grace (11), Abby (8) Tommy (5) and Nolan (3). My parents were happily married until my mother’s death in 2008. While this was a very hard time for all of us, it has brought us even closer together as a family. My father is a gentle, kind and patient man and his face lights up when he is with his grandchildren. My Mom was full of life, kind and creative. She was an amateur photographer and we have many of her photos on our walls. My father still lives in Connecticut in the same house where I was raised. My older brother and his family live in Pennsylvania and my sister and her husband just moved to Washington. My younger brother is in Connecticut in the town we grew up in. Despite living in different states, we talk regularly and see each other several times a year. My family is very supportive of our decision to adopt and cannot wait to welcome your child! My nieces and nephews are especially excited to have another cousin to play with. I have loved the outdoors since I was little and would spend my summers fishing and riding my bike with my sibling and friends. I also love sports and played soccer and baseball as a child and teenager. My parents have always been very active in my life. My Dad was even my little league coach for many years. They taught me to work hard and that family was the most important thing. My Dad took my brothers and I to California on a ski trip when we were younger and I fell in love with the state as well as the sport. I moved out to California after college and worked at a ski resort for a few years. I still love skiing and try to get out in the snow as often as possible in the winters. I currently work as a customer service manager and love to spend my free time hiking and being outdoors as much as possible. I introduced Abby to camping and we now try to go at least once a year. I cannot wait to teach your child to ski, take them for their first camping trip and maybe even coach their little league team.
Our families having a lobster dinner together.

Our families having a lobster dinner together.

Our Life

We currently live in California. Though we love living in the city, we have always pictured ourselves raising a family in the countryside. We were able to purchase our first home shortly after getting married.

We love the idea of raising a family in a place where they can have a backyard, be in nature, play and get dirty.

It is a beautiful three-bedroom house in the California countryside and has a big backyard that backs up onto a hiking and bike trail. There is a reservoir just down the road that we can walk to. We love to go there on hikes or to swim in the summer and in the winter the water freezes and we can ice skate or play hockey. We have lots of friends in the neighborhood, many of whom Jeff has known since college, and often get together with them and their families. At Halloween we all get together and take the kids trick or treating in the neighborhood. We love the idea of raising a family in a place where they can have a backyard, be in nature, play and get dirty. However, we are also excited to be able to take your child on trips to the city in order to expose them to the diversity and amazing experiences that a city can offer.

Holidays and Birthdays are a big deal in our family. When we went on our honeymoon Jeff went snorkeling for the first time. He loved the tropical fish so much that for his birthday I decorated the house with fish decals to remind him of our trip. On my birthday, I always wake up to handwritten notes from Jeff as well as a special breakfast surprise. We both get cards and phone calls from our families and often will have family gatherings later in the year to celebrate birthdays.

We both love Thanksgiving. Jeff has been celebrating Thanksgiving with the same group of friends for 20 years. They call it Turkey Bowl and start the festivities by going bowling the day before Thanksgiving. On Thanksgiving day we all play a game of football and then eat a delicious turkey dinner. As most of our friends have had children, there is now a large group of kids that play football as well. It is so fun seeing how excited the little ones get when they score their first touchdown!

4th of July is also a big holiday for us. We celebrate at our country house, and the town where we live has an amazing parade. All our friends and their families come and set up their lawn chairs for the parade. The kids get so excited and run to catch the candy that the people on the floats throw. Later in the day we go to the beach and play in the water. Many families will stay until it gets dark and watch the fireworks over the water!

Each side of our families has their own Christmas traditions. Jeff’s Mom immigrated to America from the Ukraine when she was a baby and passed down many of the Ukrainian Christmas traditions. One of these is a large meal that they prepare for Christmas Eve. There are many courses and the family gathers together each year to prepare borscht (a traditional soup), dumplings and a barley and honey mixture that you eat to bring good luck.

My (Abby’s side of our) family has a tradition of going to church on Christmas Eve and then eating a special tomato soup that my Mom makes just for Christmas. We sit by the fire, eat and talk while listening to Christmas music. The next day we make a big Turkey dinner. My Grammy made the best gravy ever. Though she passed away, Abby has now taken on the job of making the gravy. We always have special Christmas poppers that have paper crowns in them. We pop the poppers before the meal and wear our silly paper crowns until we are done with dessert.
In our backyard after a big snowfall.

In our backyard after a big snowfall.

In Closing

We are incredibly grateful to you for considering making our dreams of becoming a Mommy and Daddy together come true. Words just cannot express our gratitude to you. We are very excited about creating a family but also want you to know that we are totally committed to whatever amount of openness you would want in an adoption .

We want the child that we adopt to know all the people who love them and care about them.

We want the child that we adopt to know all the people who love them and care about them.

We hope this letter has shown you more about us. We would be happy if you call us anytime so we can get to know one another better. Our toll free number is 1-800-966-3065.

If you have any questions about us or the legal process, please feel free to contact our attorney, Suzanne Nichols, at her toll free number: 1-800-255-1415. Suzanne is very easy to talk to and welcomes any and all questions.

We hope that you find peace in whatever decision you decide is right for you and wish you all the best.

Warmest Wishes,

Abby and Jeff
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