This letter is meant to be intimate and personal, but with hundreds of viewers (including a handful of scammers) we just want to keep this simple with the hopes that you will contact us so we can have a real conversation about adoption with just you. That being said, here's a little convo between the two of us:
BRANDI: Hey Alan, can you keep the kids occupied for a little while so I can write a letter to expectant parents looking at our adoption page?
ALAN: Why do we need to write a letter? Aren't pictures worth a thousand words? And you already uploaded a ton.
BRANDI: Yes, but we still need to write a letter.
All of our children, adopted and biological alike, are “miracle babies”.
**BRANDI WRITES LETTER**
BRANDI: Here you go, Alan. This is my twenty-seventh draft. What do you think?
ALAN: Looks nice. Way to get it down to only thirteen pages, but I thought you said you were going to make it upbeat.
BRANDI: I know. I can't help but get all emotional and sentimental! This is serious stuff! It's heavy!
ALAN: Yeah, but the people reading these letters probably just want to see pictures. I doubt they even read the letters.
BRANDI: They TOTALLY read the letters!! Well, at least the first and last paragraphs, right??
ALAN: Brandi, they can see we've already adopted twice with both adoption being open. We've had wonderful communication with the birth families, so what else do they need to know?
BRANDI: Well, what if they don't want openness?? I want them to at least know that we can be flexible with their desires.
ALAN: Alright, you win. I'll give you a break and write the letter myself. It will be more interesting coming from the husband because the wives are probably the ones that always write the letters, right?
BRANDI: I knew you were my knight in shining armor! Thanks, Dear! I'll keep an eye on the kids so you can get to it! :)
**ALAN SPENDS HOURS WRITING A LETTER**
ALAN: Ok, this is a lot harder than it seemed. It all sounded so good in my head.
BRANDI: I'm sure it's fine! Let me see what you've got.
**ALAN SHOWS BRANDI HIS LETTER**
BRANDI: Alan, you haven't even completed the first paragraph. . . What have you been doing?
ALAN: I'm so much better being face-to-face with this kind of stuff.
BRANDI: I know! It's hard to write a generic letter for the whole world to see when it's supposed to be personal and address the specific needs of the intended recipient.
ALAN: Exactly. Let's just upload a bunch of pics and share a video and hope they'll reach out to us anyway.
BRANDI: Brilliant! Why did't we think of this sooner?!
ALAN: I mentioned it in my first line of this dialogue. You just needed to come to that conclusion for yourself, Dear.
BRANDI: Thanks for looking out for me. I'm so glad we could do this together.
ALAN: We can always FaceTime, Zoom, or Skype. It will be so much better to talk face-to-face anyway.