Due to my successful lung transplant and great health, our lives are full of new and exciting possibilities, including starting a family. Prior to now, the decline of my lungs demanded the majority of our time and attention. Raising a child wasn’t something that we considered doing, as it felt irresponsible given the situation at the time.
We understand that many expectant parents find themselves in situations where they aren’t able to care for, or raise, their child in the way that they want to.
I have been extremely healthy since surgery, and have a whole new life ahead of me! Our life together is profoundly different. We have time and attention to give to raising a child that we never had before.
We discussed several possibilities for building a family together. While I am capable of carrying a child, we feel that it wouldn’t be wise to put that stress on my body when there are many other ways to become parents. We discussed both adoption and using a surrogate. Our decision to pursue adoption came out of our sense of gratitude to my organ donor and how profoundly it changed our life. That gift of life and health is what has allowed us to pursue parenthood, and we want to pay that forward.
We understand that many expectant parents find themselves in situations where they aren’t able to care for, or raise, their child in the way that they want to. Their decision to choose adoption is selfless. It is out of love, and a desire to provide their child with the opportunity for a better life; a life that they feel they can’t provide.
We both have a connection to adoption in different ways. My (Amy's) dad, Steve, is my adoptive father. I have never met my biological father, as this isn't something that he wanted. My mom met Steve when I was 3 and married him when I was 5. He chose to legally adopt me when I was small, and is the only dad that I have ever known. I had his last name until I married Matt. I love Steve so much and see him as my father in every way.
As for Matt, while his step mom Leslie has never legally adopted him, and remains his step mom in title, she is his mother in every sense of the word. We both believe that DNA isn't the only way that a family is made. It's the hours, days, and years spent together forming memories and traditions. We are so excited about adoption, and forming our family in this way.