I sit here writing this at least a month after Andrea started asking me to. This is one of the final steps in our process before we can hope to be introduced to you. One of the final steps in a journey that we've waited for anxiously and cannot wait to complete.
Everyone who knows Andrea is better for it, and those of us who share our lives closely with her have it best of all.
One of the final steps in what I hope is only the first stage of growing our family. However, the time it took me to write this is, I'm sure, nothing compared to the overdue time it's been since I last told Andrea just how much she means to me.
Everyone who knows Andrea is better for it, and those of us who share our lives closely with her have it best of all. You see, we're not just better off in the figurative sense people often mean when they say such a thing. We're literally, physically, and emotionally better off because of all Andrea does for everyone around her. The personification of giving, Andrea always wants everyone else's needs fulfilled before her own. Whether that means hosting a dinner party where there are three appetizers for every person in attendance or making sure I have enough blankets in the middle of the night, even if that means she has too few. Her thoughtfulness and generosity know no bounds. That is, unless we're talking about the thermostat. As someone who is always cold, I signed up for the ultimate punishment marrying someone who is always hot. But I'll happily wear a sweatshirt, and maybe gloves, if it means she's comfortable, because she would do the same for me. I have no doubt that her determination to be part of the happiness of those around her will be one of her best traits as a mom. Andrea is true to herself in a way few people are. The absence of pretentiousness is one of my favorite qualities of hers. A lover of travel and the finer indulgences, she has brought experiences to my life that I never would have had without her. But whether we are sitting center orchestra at a Broadway show or 30,000 feet in the air on our way to Paris, Andrea is the one with a can of Sprite and a bag of Skittles. Her refined tastes but simple pleasures are how I know that our children will be raised to be well educated, well cultured, and well-rounded people. The truth is, though, I think the real reason Andrea wants a family filled with kids is so she has another reason to keep candy around the house.
Since I met Andrea, or more accurately a couple months later when it was clear we would end up spending our lives together, she mentioned always wanting to adopt. This journey has brought us closer together and solidified what we want out of life. Andrea will make a great mom, for all of the reasons I mentioned and for too many more to include here. And I cannot wait to parent along with her.