We are Andy, Elise, Caleb, Henry and Grant and we live in the suburbs of Greensboro, NC. We have known since our youngest son Grant was born four years ago, that we wanted to expand and enhance our family by adopting a little girl (or two!) We are so excited to start this journey, hopefully with you!
We are excited to adopt a child of any race, ethnicity, age (under 4), sisters, mild and correctable special needs. The Greensboro area is a very ethnically and culturally diverse African American majority southern city and we know that a child of any race or ethnicity would thrive with the abundance of educational, cultural and social offerings available in this area.
"Children need two things. One is roots and the other is wings."
Like many hopeful adoptive parents listed on adoption.com, we have so much to offer an adopted child. So what makes us special? First and foremost, we are a very close knit, loving and supportive family. We believe there is strength in numbers (which is why we are expanding our family through adoption), and we always have each others back. Since Elise stays home with the boys and Andy's work schedule is very flexible, we are able to travel frequently and enjoy lots of family activities. Each of us takes advantage of our open schedule by pursuing our own interests and hobbies. Andy is happiest doing any sort of athletics. He has completed an Ironman and many other shorter distance triathlons and races. He also coaches the boys baseball team and has coached swimming in the past. He also loves fishing and playing video games! Elise loves service and has a generous spirit. She volunteers at the boys school including the PTO, coordinates their grade's service projects, and volunteers in each of their classrooms weekly. She also loves gardening , reading, baking and developing new recipes and products. Caleb loves all sports, collecting sports cards, marine biology and is in his schools academically gifted program. Henry loves all animals, WWE (especially John Cena), and math. Grant loves Super Mario Brothers (Nintendo), bugs (especially fireflies), and giving great big hugs!
We are specifically trying to adopt a little girl for a few reasons. First of all, Elise has a reproductive health problem where carrying another baby could put her health and the health of the baby at risk. Second, we don't think it would be fair to an adopted son to live with three biological sons. As parents we would never intend to make the adopted son feel any different than our biological sons, however when we consider what it would be like to walk in their shoes, we think they would always feel different. Finally, a little girl is different, and raising one is a part of life we want to experience.
The expectations for our adopted daughter are less about her and more about what we can give her. We will give her every opportunity to thrive in every aspect of life, just as we have our boys. There are no such things as perfect parents, a perfect child, or a perfect family. Just because we prefer a girl, does not mean we expect her to be a perfect little lady. As a young child, she will be given every opportunity to learn and experience life, and then as she grows, she can further define her interests and desires. We will support and encourage any life she leads. We will also encourage her birth family to tell us about the type of life they would like to see their daughter have, so we can include their preferences in her upbringing.
We own a beautiful 5 bedroom/3 bathroom house with a toy room, in a small and private housing development on a cul-de-sac in one of the top school districts in the state. It is truly the perfect place to raise children.
Our family is mainly focused on health and nutrition (we eat clean and organic as much as possible), fitness (the boys are involved in flag football, lacrosse, kickboxing, basketball, running club, baseball, t-ball, gymnastics and we have a pool), education, traveling (anywhere from the Florida Keys to the mountains of Maine, to the great state of Texas), loving each other (Caleb, Henry and Grant can't wait to have a little sister- with three big brothers, no one will ever mess with her!), giving back (we volunteer with dog rescues, the kids elementary school PTO, Church and therapeutic children's programs) and FAITH!
We believe that experience + exposure = education. We try to expose our children to as many different people, places, foods and positive experiences as possible. How else will they know what they want to do with their lives, where they want to live, what they may want to study in school and who they want to grow up to be without experience? They will grow up with confidence, knowledge and an open mind!
We will welcome our adopted child's birth family into our lives with open arms because we believe it is the best for the child, you and us. This will give the child a sense who they are, where they came from and always knowing that they are loved by so many. We would welcome the relationship you desire, whether its FaceTime, visits (we do love to travel!), frequent photos/texts, etc. We want our child's birth family to feel confident, comfortable and content with their decision to choose us. We consider adoption to be a blending of two families rather than an addition to our family. For us, an open adoption is the only way to go.
Being experienced parents we don't hesitate at the thought of sleepless nights, temper tantrums, or sibling rivalry. We embrace and welcome these parenting challenges as well as the many others. We know what we are "getting into" and can't wait for it to become a reality!
Andy being a Certified Financial Planner and Elise also having a background in finance (see our first video where we discuss how we met!) has given us valuable experience and knowledge about money . Since we know it is only a matter of time until we adopt, we already have a college fund for our adopted child in place and we are continuing to contribute to that as we have our biological children's accounts. The child we adopt also will have a very good understanding of finance by the time they become an adult, so they can make important decisions on their own.
Thank you for considering us as your child's adoptive family and reviewing our profile! We hope that you will find our profile to be a good match for what you are looking for in an adoptive family for your child. We are domestic home study approved and ready to adopt. If you are interested in learning more about our family, including lots more pictures, please contact us or our super nice lawyer Amy Wallas Fox (704) 702-0300. We can't wait to meet you!
Andy, Elise, Caleb, Henry and Grant