Shane and I get asked a lot of questions when it comes to building our family. I have to laugh at all the questions we get since it is such a personal thing and some of the questions we get asked are off the wall. Example, we have been asked if we even knew how to make a baby?
Yep. Instant eye roll please.
But…..I don’t mind. I love the questions. Now suggestions on how we should grow our family? I don’t really have patience for that. To this day, after six years of not using any form of birth control, we still get people telling us we should try this or that. But besides that we are an open book. There are times where we may not be able to answer some things because they are not our story to tell, but we share all we can.
One of the most frequent questions we get asked is why we decided to adopt, or what led us to adoption. I wish there was one ah ha moment but for us I feel like adoption grew over time in our hearts. There wasn’t one experience or moment where we were like yep lets do that. There was a lot of prayer and researching and time that was involved. After about 2 years of trying different infertility treatments we decided to try IUI. As we were going over this process with our doctor, adoption seemed to be a daily conversation between the two us.
We looked into it and started researching. We prayed about it and felt like we needed to pursue both, adoption and IUI. Money was tight and I was an emotional mess from the drugs I had to take for IUI but we had faith that God had a plan for us. We started the adoption process and started our first round of IUI. After 3 failed rounds of IUI we had two choices. IVF or adoption. We felt a strong pull to only pursue adoption.
After our last round of IUI, guess who was born 5 months later? Yep, our Lucy girl. The light of our lives. I am so grateful we choose to only pursue adoption at that time in our lives. All of our struggles, all the pain made sense once we held Lucy in our arms for the first time.
When we felt like it was time to add to our family again it felt only natural to choose adoption once again. IVF didn’t even cross our mind. We want nothing more than to give Lucy a sibling, we know that she is going to become one amazing big sister.
Are there more children in our future? Will we choose adoption? Or IVF?
I honestly can’t answer those questions. I hope we will have more children. How they come or when they come do not matter to us. We will feel very blessed with each child we have the opportunity to raise in this life. Faith, hope, and trust in God is what we will continue to do. We will continue to keep moving forward.