Dear Expectant Parent,

Welcome to Our Family
Hi. We are Rebecca, Mark, and Valen, a family that has come together through the blessing of an open adoption. We are hoping to adopt another child, and the joy we experienced with Valen’s adoption makes us excited about growing our family. We enjoy visits and phone calls with Valen's birth family and are open to having a similar relationship with our future child's birth family. We believe it is important for a child to have access to his or her roots and biological identity.
Valen loves making sand castles with Mommy and jumping over waves when the tides comes in.

Valen loves making sand castles with Mommy and jumping over waves when the tides comes in.

Our Story

We met in March 2005 after an initial connection online and a six-hour first date that included three cappuccinos at a local cafe, before heading out to enjoy more conversation over dinner and dessert. Rebecca was attracted to Mark because he was a great listener who enjoyed hearing stories about her Grammy and Grampy. Mark liked Rebecca’s sense of adventure and her ability to appreciate simple times together.

Since then, we have enjoyed an open adoption with Valen’s birthmother, sharing stories and photos as he has grown into a wonderful little boy.

We now laugh about how many of our early dates actually took place while strolling the aisles of Costco on the weekends! We just enjoyed each other’s company, so it didn’t matter where we were.

We share many similar interests: we love to travel and enjoy swimming, scuba diving and snorkeling. Mark prefers warm-weather destinations while Rebecca is game for anything. That’s why Mark calls her “Dora the Explorer!” The good thing is that we complement each other very well: Rebecca likes to cook, and Mark is good at cleaning up after meals. Mark enjoys decorating the house while Rebecca prefers to grow a vegetable garden outside. Rebecca can be loud at times, while Mark – the “gentle giant” -- is reserved and soft spoken.

We were married at our home in the suburbs, sharing the experience with family and friends in a beautiful ocean side-ceremony.

When we discovered we could not grow our family biologically, we happily turned to adoption as our path to starting a family and sharing our love and joy for life with a child. That hope became a reality in 2012, when we were blessed to be at the birth of our son Valen. Since then, we have enjoyed an open adoption with Valen’s birthmother and birth grandmother, sharing stories and photos as he has grown into a wonderful little boy.

Now 4 years old, Valen loves to sing and dance with Mommy in front of the television. He helps Daddy blow leaves outside and clean up the yard. And he takes charge of feeding our dog Maxie breakfast and dinner.
Valen always finds a way to get Daddy to give him a ride.

Valen always finds a way to get Daddy to give him a ride.

Our Family

Before Valen, our family was touched by adoption with the addition of Rebecca’s goddaughter in 1999. She holds a special place in our hearts and is very excited that we are adopting another child. We are also members of a local adoptive parents organization so that we can continue to learn about the needs of adopted children and their birth families.

We believe that every child should know their birth story, and we have shared with Valen how we became a family from the very beginning.



The joy we experienced in adopting Valen makes us excited to welcome another adopted child. We believe that every child should know their birth story, and we have shared with Valen how we became a family from the very beginning. In addition to phone calls and visits with his birth family, we include Valen's birthmom and birthgrandmother in the list of people we pray for every night before bed.
Pumpkin picking with Valen’s cousins is an autumn tradition.

Pumpkin picking with Valen’s cousins is an autumn tradition.

Our Dream for Our Children

Our dream for our children is for them to realize their dreams -- whatever they may be. We want our child to feel secure in the love and support they receive from us, their birth family, and our extended family and friends. We already love our future child; we’re just waiting for him or her to join us and become part of our family.

Our dream for our children is for them to realize their dreams -- whatever they may be.



Thank you for reading our profile and considering us as you make decisions about your future.

You can call or text us at 551-200-1976 or email us at rebeccaandmark2005@gmail.com.

Or you can call or email our adoption lawyer, Robin Fleischner at 212-362-6945, robin@adoptsurrogatelaw.com.

We also invite you to view our website, rebeccaandmark.net.
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