Our Story

Hi, we're Ben & Paulina.
Ben and I (Paulina) met in an Electrical Circuits class in college, where we both studied Engineering. I played tennis for the college and therefore missed a lot of class time. Ben helped me in that class by sharing his class notes.

We started the adoption process in the summer of 2014, and we met Lucas in October of 2016, just 4 days after he was born. We communicate with his birth mom, "K" via email, at her request, but the relationship is open.

However, we did not start dating until about a year later, in August of 2008. We both knew right away that this relationship was "the real deal" and quickly introduced each other to our families. In September of 2010, Ben proposed we were married in May of 2011, in Monterrey, my hometown in Mexico. It was a wonderful wedding! Shortly after we got married, I found out that due to a medical condition, I would not be able to have children biologically. It was a difficult time for both of us, but it made our marriage even stronger through lots of love and mutual support.

We have both always dreamed of being parents. Before we were married, we discussed how we would like to grow our family. We were both very open to having biological children and adopting. So, when we found out that couldn't have biological children, we both knew that adoption was the path we wanted to take. We started the adoption process in the summer of 2014, and we met Lucas in October of 2016, just 4 days after he was born. We communicate with his birth mom, "K" via email, at her request, but the relationship is open. Ben was transferred with his job in the summer of 2017, so when we moved and felt established in our new community, we decided to start the adoption process again.
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Enjoying art

Meet Paulina

I was born and raised in Monterrey, Mexico and would say it is the best city in Mexico, but I may be a little biased! I was very blessed to grow up in a wonderful, large, close family. I have two younger brothers, and many first cousins that I am also close with. I loved school growing up and was a good student.

People describe her as a warm, happy person who loves helping others.

I started playing tennis at the age of 8 and never stopped! I got my Bachelors and Master's degrees both in Industrial Engineering. I love spending time with friends and playing sports, but I am also an avid reader! Harry Potter is my absolute favorite and I've read all of the HP books several times. I teach engineering at a community college and absolutely love teaching! I believe teaching is my calling. I plan on continuing to work after we adopt a second child, but I will take a few months off in the beginning. The great thing is, teaching at the college level offers a lot of flexibility! I teach many of my courses online, and basically have summers off. I also enjoy volunteering for our church events and Engineers Without Borders.

One of my hobbies is traveling and I have been very fortunate to travel to places like Brazil, Hawaii, Australia, New Zealand, and several places in Europe and the U.S.

Ben shares: What I love about my wife is that she has been my rock ever since we started dating. Right away, I knew that I wanted to spend my life with her. The way that we, as two very different personalities (she's VERY extroverted, and I am more of a home-body), can complement each other is a testament to our fundamental love for one another. Paulina is very active both professionally and in our community. She always wants to give more and more to people, whether it be extra projects at work, church groups/activities, tennis or planning travel, either for us or for her family to come and visit us, which puts me in awe of her and her capacity to sacrifice for others. Even through bad times, we seem to find fun in everything. Paulina always knows exactly how to cheer me up, even when I am not having a great day. Just her presence centers me and gives me the drive to be the best husband that I can be.
She was very blessed to grow up in a wonderful, large, close family. She has two younger brothers, and many first cousins.

She always loved school and was a good student. She started playing tennis at the age of 8 and never stopped! She played tennis in college as a student and loved it.

She got her Bachelors and Master's degrees both in Industrial Engineering. She loves hanging out with friends and playing sports, but she is also an avid reader! Harry Potter is her absolute favorite and she has read all of the HP books several times. She teaches engineering at a community college and absolutely loves teaching! She also likes volunteering for church events and Engineers Without Borders.

She also loves traveling and has been very fortunate to have traveled to places like Brazil, Hawaii, Australia, New Zealand, and several places in Europe and the U.S. People describe her as a warm, happy person who loves helping others. She can't wait to teach her kids how to play tennis.

What I love about my wife (by Ben)

Paulina has been my rock since we started dating. Right away I knew that I wanted to spend my life with her. The way that we, as very different personalities (she is VERY extroverted, and I am more of a home-body) can complement each other is a testament to our fundamental love for each other. She understands what makes me tick which makes life for both of us 100 times better than I ever thought it would be.

Paulina is very active both professionally and in our community. She always wants to give more and more to people, be it extra projects at work, church groups/activities, tennis or planning travel (either for us or for her family to come and visit us), which puts me in awe of her and her capacity to sacrifice for others.

Even through bad times, we seem to find fun in anything. She always has a way to cheer me up even when I am not having a great day. Just her presence centers me and gives me the drive to be the best husband that I can be.

Meet Ben

I was born and raised in New Mexico, and moved around the state quite a bit. I come from a big, happy family where most everyone lives in New Mexico. I have two older sisters and four nieces and nephews, as well as many cousins.

People describe him as incredibly smart and very funny.

After High School, I joined the Navy and served as a Nuclear Mechanic in submarines. While in the Navy, I lived in places like Guam and San Diego, among many others. After my 7 years in the Navy, I pursued my bachelor's degree in Mechanical Engineering. I am a huge science fiction fan and I somehow managed to get Paulina into sci-fi and now we watch Battlestar Galactica and Dr. Who together.

I love our dogs and enjoys playing with them as much as possible. I work as an engineer for an aerospace company and get to be involved in rockets, spaceships, satellites and 1 car that go to space. My contributions to the company may one day lead to the human exploration of Mars, which is exciting! Aside from family and work, I also enjoy traveling and have visited many wonderful places with Paulina. People often describe me as a loyal and generous friend.


What I love about my husband (by Paulina)

After Ben and I started dating, I remember telling my friends that I could not believe a person like him actually existed. I never thought I could find a guy who was so incredibly funny, smart, kind, generous, hardworking, and loving. But, he is all of that and more. I had to rewrite this section several times because every time I wrote it, I ran out of space. I also realized it sounded like the ramblings of a crazy person. I am crazy; crazy in love with him;)

So here is a list: 1. I love how devoted he is to being a great husband and to making sure we are true partners. 2. I love that he believes in me more than I believe in myself. 3. I love that he "gets" me, and I feel very comfortable being myself with him. 4. I love that we share a lot of the same interests and opinions, and that he got me into scifi movies. 5. I love how strong he has been for us both during the tough times as we dealt with infertility. 6. He is an absolutely amazing father. He's a natural! Lucas just adores him.
Lucas

Lucas

Meet Our Son, Lucas

Lucas is two and half years old and is a wonderfully kind and inquisitive child. He is happy, smart, and very funny (and he knows it). He has a big personality! He loves our dogs, Leo and Luna, and also loves Buzz Lightyear, Nemo, Elmo, trains/trucks/planes/rockets, playing with balls, and bouncing on our small trampoline.

He is happy, smart, and very funny (and he knows it).



Lucas always wants to be outside, and fortunately living in a place with great weather, it's always nice. We go to the park near our house a lot! Lucas is full of joy and loves to laugh, sometimes he even laughs for no reason at all! He is also very compassionate and likes to give us hugs, kisses, and have "cuddle time" with us.

Oh, and before I forget, he loves to sleep! He really enjoys his bed, so much so that during prayers right before bedtime, we pray for daddy, mommy, birth mom, birth dad, and after that he starts adding his own words "Buzz... Mickey... planes... dinosaurs... and bed!"
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