Josh likes to remind everyone that the first time we met, I (Ashley) didn’t even remember him. However, the important detail here is that it was at a Halloween party, where he was dressed up as a Beastie Boy. He doesn’t look much like the Beastie Boy in real life.
We are so grateful that God has allowed us the opportunity to share information about our life with you.
I was a freshman, and Josh was a junior in college. The first evening we were introduced, Josh, in his pinstripe, velour sports coat, asked me for my number. It was the beginning of my freshman year at college, and I remember briefly thinking, should I really give my number to an older guy in a velour sport coat?... ha-ha! I am sure glad I did! Josh and I became best friends very quickly and continued our friendship for a few months. Our first official date was on Valentine’s Day at a Mexican restaurant. We dated throughout college, during Josh’s internship in Dallas, and remained in a long-distance relationship when Josh moved to California for work. We were in a long-distance relationship for three years. It wasn't easy, but we learned a lot along the way. As soon as I finished my Master's program, I moved to southern California to be with Josh. Two years later, Josh proposed to me when we were on a trip home visiting our families. Just as we began planning our wedding Josh’s dad, John, was diagnosed with stage four lung cancer. We moved home to be with him and together, with Josh’s sister, we cared for him. John passed away far too quickly, only three months after his diagnosis. We took time to process John’s passing, and after a year and a half long engagement, we had our dream wedding in Mexico on a golf course overlooking the ocean. We have been married for three years now, and each year has made our relationship stronger and has brought us closer together.
Adoption made a special imprint on our lives years before we were married. The Gladney Center for Adoption was my (Ashley) first internship, as a social worker. During this time, I was able to get a glimpse of the joys and hardships of the adoption process. I remember sharing the experiences I had with expectant mothers and adoptive parents with Josh. At the time, we had been dating for about four years and knew one day we would begin and grow our family. I remember us imagining and talking about how God would build our family. We would pray that God would bless us with the opportunity to adopt a child one day. We are so grateful that God has allowed us the opportunity to share information about our life with you. Now, we find ourselves praying for you as an expectant parent making an extremely difficult decision.