We met in the university bookstore. Sebastian handed a collection of the philosopher Plato's works down to Elyse from the top shelf. We began as friends getting to know each other, and six months later we started dating.
We met in a bookstore, we fell in love over discussions of books, and now have built an extensive book collection together.
After college, we got married and moved to Boston for graduate school. Boston was a life-altering experience for us: we were newly married, learning to live in the Northeast and for Elyse, learning how to drive in the snow. Sixteen years later, Elyse is now a pro digging her car out of the snow.
We rescued our two kitties, Apollo and Socrates, while we worked on completing our PhD programs in philosophy. In 2012, we moved to upstate New York to become professors and began trying to start a family. Over this time, we have traveled to Peru, the Galapagos, Europe, India, and the Caribbean. We met in a bookstore, we fell in love over discussions of books, and now have built an extensive book collection together.
We tried to conceive naturally and also underwent fertility treatments. These did not succeed, so we have chosen to consider adoption, which has always been a part of our families. Elyse's cousins on both of her parents' sides were adopted, so for her, adoption was a normal choice to grow a family. Her cousins on her father's side have kept in contact with their birth parents and families to learn more about each other.
On Sebastian's side, his best friend from childhood was adopted. His best friend had a closed adoption, but through DNA testing later, ended up finding his biological half-brother. He is close to his half-brother now and visits him in Key West.