We were oh so happy at this particular moment!

We were oh so happy at this particular moment!

Dear Current Stranger/Future Friend,

Thank you for taking the time to read and learn about us! While we can’t imagine what you are currently facing, we wish you the best as you work to make the challenging decisions that lie ahead of you. We believe that placing a child for adoption is a loving and selfless act, and we have the utmost respect for anyone who makes this decision. We hope you find peace and comfort along your way as you strive to find what is best for you and your child.

For members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints especially, you would think after 12 years of marriage we’d have at least 4 or 5 kids by now! Right?

Our Story:
Rebecca and I met at Brigham Young University (BYU). In our congregation, my roommate and I were assigned to home teach her and her roommates. (Home teaching is a program in The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints to make sure everyone is supported and cared for). It’s a little awkward to try dating people you home teach, but after about a year of becoming good friends, I decided I would risk asking her out. Apparently, it was worth the risk. She was usually shy and reserved, but on that first date, she was almost giddy. We dated for several more months and then I proposed at Thanksgiving time after taking her on a surprise horse-back ride. I’m not a huge animal lover, but I knew she couldn’t refuse me if horses were involved, especially since practically every note she ever wrote me was signed “ - <3 - Rebecca…Horses are Awesome!” So…we got married on Cinco de Mayo, 2007 – complete with a wedding cake piñata. (Don’t worry, we had a real wedding cake too.)

We soon graduated from BYU and moved to Clearfield, UT where I was hired by Northrop Grumman (an aerospace engineering company) and I’ve been there ever since. I really enjoy the work I do and am glad that the company has been growing a lot lately.

For members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints especially, you would think after 13 years of marriage we’d have at least 4 or 5 kids by now! Right? We wanted about four children total, but so far we only have two. Austin, our biological son, is a super silly, super energetic, 9 year old. We adopted Emma as an older child. She is also 9, being just a few months older than Austin. She is creative and musical. We know our family is still not complete though. In truth, our difficulties in having more biological children have been extremely frustrating to us. Over time, we have felt increasingly discouraged and drained by the lack of results achieved through various tests, treatments, and other efforts. Since we haven’t been successful in having many children on our own yet, we feel that adoption is God’s plan for us right now. Hey! Maybe you are part of God’s plan for us too! That would be awesome! Even more awesome than horses!

We decided to pursue the adoption of a domestic infant in hopes that the closer proximity to birth parents, the commonalities of language and culture, and the ease of communication would make adoption a smoother transition for everyone involved. Our adoption of Emma altered our lives for the better, bringing additional joy and laughter to our home while pushing us all through the difficulties of learning to love and bond with each other. We know the adoption of another family member would once again change all our lives in wonderful ways, bringing us even greater opportunities for love, learning, teaching, and bonding.

As we have turned to adoption, we have learned a lot about open adoptions and how positive such relationships can be for everyone involved. Therefore, we would ideally prefer to have an open adoption as we believe this is ultimately the healthiest adoption situation. That being said, we are happy to discuss the level of openness you wish to maintain. We are good at keeping in contact with people and would be happy to send updates to a birth family, speak with them through phone calls, and/or participate in periodic visits. We are happy to be flexible as to the level of openness for an adoption based on what will work best for your and our situations. Ultimately, we hope that as we get to know you we can build a relationship of trust in which you are comfortable telling us what you want or need from us and in which we can also be candid with you about our own hopes as well.

You obviously want to get to know each of us as best you can. We think hearing each of our perspectives will help you with that.
We love the outdoors!

We love the outdoors!

Our Personalities

You obviously want to get to know each of us as best you can. We think hearing each of our perspectives will help you with that.

Rebecca’s Perspective
I love to create and design.

Sometimes we just dance around making silly noises. Sometimes we drive cars and trains around on Austin's tracks.

I graduated from BYU with a BA in Illustration and currently run a small home business designing and selling pop-up cards, favor boxes, and other paper items. Additionally, I love to draw, paint, and create wood crafts and toys. I am extremely grateful that I can work on my talents and interests while also being able to stay home with our kids during the day. Spending time helping them learn and discover new things is very rewarding for me. I have always been a sort of tomboy, and I am avid about being active and having fun outdoors. I love literature, history, art, and animals. One day I plan to have a horse, which is why we are living on a horse property.

Nate is extremely smart and a fast learner, so it is no surprise that he received nearly all A’s throughout his time in school. He has a good sense of humor, which often helps lighten the atmosphere of otherwise tense situations. Generally he is a casual guy who enjoys making jokes and playfully teasing. I love how he often brightens my day with his fun personality and thoughtful attentions. He greets me with a loving hug and kiss every day when he returns home from work. He is kind, considerate, and good at noticing ways to help others. Nate is also a great father; I love watching him interact with Austin, Emma, and other kids! Just watching him tease, play, and have fun with children is a blast! He is friendly and witty but also reserved. Nate has always been good at working to support me in my interests, even when they are not his own. For example, he has been very accommodating in my desires to have pets, even though he is not particularly enthusiastic about animals himself. Our relationship over the years has just grown stronger as we have learned how to work and communicate with each other even better.
Austin’s favorite things to do are playing with toys and being silly. When he has free time, he generally spends it building creations out of Legos and K’nex. He also is artistically gifted and loves to run around or ride his bike outside. He loves all sorts of vehicles and dreams of being able to drive some of his favorites one day.

Emma loves music, horseback riding, and swinging around on a playground. Like Austin, she also loves reading and playing actively outside. She often spends time writing imaginative stories and notes and coloring pictures. She is eager to be helpful around the house, a trait that is much appreciated!

Nate’s Perspective
I am laid-back, humorous, and intelligent. I am fairly introverted and haven’t always been very successful socially. (Except marrying Rebecca. That was pretty dang successful of me.) I work hard towards succeeding in my career and providing for my family, but I also love taking time off from work to do fun things with them. My main spiritual and family goal is to maintain a loving relationship with my wife and children and a close relationship with God.

Rebecca is creative, ambitious, diligent, and super hard-working. She loves art and animals and is very good at staying organized and maintaining a routine. Rebecca is very thoughtful and puts a lot of effort into researching issues that affect our family like education and politics. I really admire that she always does what she thinks is right, even if it is unpopular, or hard, or makes her uncomfortable. She is a super caring person, too. She is always coming up with ways she can use her hobbies to make her friends and family happy – like making wooden toy cars for Austin, giving people home-made soap, or coming up with fancy new paper craft designs just for a family member’s special occasion. In our marriage, she has always been selfless and has put my happiness ahead of her own.

Austin is an energetic, silly boy. I love coming home from work and hearing the same thing from him every day – “Dad! I want to play with you!” It has been fun seeing him succeed in home-school and devour new books. He has been so excited to have a sister and practically worships the ground she walks on.

Emma joined our family later, but has seemed to fit right in. She is super helpful and affectionate. I love when she randomly comes up to give me hugs and tells me “I love you”. When it’s her turn to spend one-on-one time with me, she always chooses to ride our bikes to the park.

Austin’s Perspective
The best thing about mom is….she gives me school lessons, makes me lunch, reads books to me, and goes on bike rides with me.
The best thing about dad is….he makes me breakfast on Saturday like scrambled eggs, he goes on bike rides with me, and he plays with me.
The best thing about me is…that I am good at reading, writing, and hiking.
I want to have another sibling because…I want to play with him or her.

Emma’s Perspective
The best thing about mom is….she is nice, she loves me, and she is patient.
The best thing about dad is….he goes on bike rides with me, he plays with me, and he is really nice.
The best thing about me is…that I can hike so fast, that I can ride my bike, and that I can learn fast.
I want to have another sibling because….we will have more people to play games.
We love to spend time together doing a variety of activities, like going to the Tulip Festival

We love to spend time together doing a variety of activities, like going to the Tulip Festival

Priorities & Principles:

Priorities & Principles:
As a family, there are a number of things that are particularly important for us. Here are some of the top principles and priorities for our family. While we are not perfect at these, they are all of great importance to us, and we are continually striving to improve upon these ideals:

Faith: Our faith in Jesus Christ creates the foundation that our family stands on.

Our faith in Jesus Christ creates the foundation that our family stands on.

As members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, our faith provides us with firm principles and high moral standards to hold to. These things influence nearly every other aspect of our lives, and we are constantly working to live according to them. Activities of worship also permeate our routines: we hold daily family prayer, we read the scriptures together, we attend church weekly as a family, and we attend the temple as a couple monthly.

Family: Family is an extremely important aspect of our lives and our faith. We work to support each other in individual as well as family needs and interests, and we make spending time together a priority. We eat dinner together every evening, we take family vacations, we hold weekly family home evening (with a spiritual lesson, treat, and activity), and we read and play together often. We also spend time with extended family on a regular basis. We try to practice “connected parenting,” which emphasizes meeting the need underlying the child’s misbehavior instead of punishing them into good behavior.

Hard Work: We believe in working hard and doing our best. After all, success doesn’t come to those who don’t put effort into achieving it. We all have individual and family responsibilities to take care of around our house and yard that make our household run as smoothly as possible.

Recreation: While hard work is important, fun recreational activities make life truly enjoyable! We do things together as a family and as a couple. We love to get away and go hiking, camping, and swimming. We enjoy visiting museums, going to plays and musicals, and attending local events (such as fairs, festivals, rodeos, etc.). There are plenty of things we love to do closer to home too, such as going for walks, visiting the park, roasting marshmallows over a backyard campfire, watching movies, reading books, singing, playing games, and building puzzles together. Holiday traditions are especially fun whether we are caroling to our neighbors, dressing up in Halloween costumes, or doorbell ditching valentine cookies to our friends.

Service: Finding ways to serve others brings joy to everyone involved. We try to help others around us when needs arise, and we visit our elderly neighbors regularly.

Education: Knowledge is power, and success is much more difficult without it. This world is full of learning opportunities, which is wonderful since we always love to learn new things. We are working to instill a love for learning in Austin and Emma (and plan to do the same for all future children) by doing fun educational activities, visiting educational places, reading to and with them, and teaching them about various things ourselves.

Fiscal Responsibility: We have always strived to handle our money responsibly. We create monthly budgets and try to stick to them. Furthermore, we have never had any debt besides our mortgage, and all purchases are saved up for and paid in full so that no additional debt is incurred. Major purchases are always discussed, researched, and agreed upon before we make them.

Thank you for taking the time to get to know us a little! Feel free to visit our family blog to get to know us even better at nateandrebeccascott.wordpress.com. We would love to hear from you and answer any questions you may have! We hope for the opportunity to get to know you better and find ways to support you through this process. We wish you the best as you make this difficult decision, and we are keeping you in our prayers.

Nate and Rebecca Scott
Host: www1