Our story began so very unexpectedly and untraditionally. We both had ended prior relationships and just happened to stumble upon each other at my previous retail job in 2015. We honestly owe our entire relationship to Sean's daughter and now my stepdaughter, Jada.
Our hearts are prepared to love, and our arms are prepared to hold this child for a lifetime to come.
She was the common dominator that built the foundation that led us together. From there, we began to build our life together. We moved in together and were engaged on Valentine’s day in 2016. We were legally married in April of 2016 and had the most amazing destination wedding in Charleston, SC on May 31st ,2016. We knew we wanted to grow our family and have our children be close in age, so I left my retail job and started my current career as a banker. Sean owns his own commercial cleaning business and we needed our schedules to align in order to grow our family. We didn’t realize at the time what an absolute miracle welcoming our daughter Sutten Lee to our family was on May 25th, 2017. We fell even more in love with our life as a family of four and decided our family wouldn’t be complete without one more child.
In October of 2018 our hearts were shattered as we experienced our first miscarriage. We were reassured how common this was and that normally it meant something wasn’t right with the baby’s chromosomes and genetics. We gathered ourselves and proceeded to try to expand our family. 2019 came and went as we lost three more babies to miscarriage, one baby girl with a chromosomal abnormality called Triploidy and two healthy baby boys. We were referred to a reproductive endocrinologist and underwent many tests in order to find the root of the problem. To our surprise, we have yet to find anything to explain our miscarriages. We were confident in our doctor and our new normal became focusing on fertility treatments both medication and daily injections. In 2020, we lost two more healthy baby boys to miscarriage. In August of 2020 we decided to close this chapter of our lives. A big part of our decision was our two daughters, they need us here both mentally and physically but also in good health. There were so many days that we would ask ourselves “why us, why now, or why does this keep happening?”. It took some time for us to figure this out, and we truly rely on the fact that another biological child was not part of God’s plan. We believe in his time he will make things whole for us and that this journey was meant for us. He has put us through some very tough times, but they shaped who we are today. We are so incredibly thankful for how this journey has touched our lives and most of all that it led YOU to reading this. I can honestly say we are not the same couple that said “I do” almost five years ago. We are not even the same parents we were before all of this either. Our relationship and our family have only grown stronger. We are more present and invested in the life we have been blessed with and we will find our match and bring our baby home someday. We have not and we will not give up that dream until it is fulfilled.
Our hearts are prepared to love, and our arms are prepared to hold this child for a lifetime to come.