Long ago (like, the 1990s), the only way adoptees had to find their birth families was to check old hospital records, hire a private investigator, and hope for a miracle. Today there are so many methods to find where and who you came from—here are five new methods for going to go about reuniting with your first family.
Spit in a tube.
One of the most common ways adoptees and first families are connecting these days is through genealogical DNA companies. Not only can you find out your heritage, but if a blood relative has also submitted their DNA, you can connect online.
Remember when you couldn’t get on Facebook without somebody sharing a picture of a hopeful daughter holding a poster board with her birth statistics? Revive the method – ask people to share your information and see how far it spreads.
Check out Reality TV.
While it seems like a stretch, if you have an interesting story (and not too many skeletons in your closet), you might consider submitting applications for television shows that help connect families. Facebook has loads of groups that post casting calls for possible shows–see if one is your perfect fit!
Make a video.
If you have got some creativity and a few willing friends, make a video and post it to social media. Talk about yourself, share your story, and see if you can make a connection that way. Don’t forget the hashtags!
Join a reunion group.
A simple search will bring up lots of different forums and clearinghouses for those seeking to reunite with their families. While you may not find your parents right away, you will find a community to help you navigate the emotions on your journey.
Finally, while you are waiting for your DNA to process – and your YouTube fame to skyrocket – remember that adoptees in many states are denied birth certificates with information about their birth parents. If you live in a state that has suppressed your history, get angry and give your state reps a call—ask them to draft and support legislation that protects the rights of the adopted.