Things are so different after reunion, why is this so emotionally confusing??

I really would love some advice. Long post. It's...

October 6, 2024

Melanie Dolinger

Spouse feels overshadowed by reunion

I'm not sure if you're still around on this site b...

August 26, 2024

Kylie Bolland

Spouse feels overshadowed by reunion

Hi can anyone help my husband of 16 years found hi...

January 21, 2020

shelee

Spouse feels overshadowed by reunion

I am a wife to an adoptee. I am 31 yes old. His re...

July 25, 2014

smerch01

Spouse feels overshadowed by reunion

Dickons, I will look up that book. I have not foun...

February 24, 2014

smerch01

Spouse feels overshadowed by reunion

LR4, thanks for the input. It is a whole lot of ne...

February 24, 2014

Dickons

Spouse feels overshadowed by reunion

L4R is right on intense and finding it's place wit...

February 24, 2014

L4R

Spouse feels overshadowed by reunion

Your relationship with your mom is new. Just keep ...

February 24, 2014

smerch01

Spouse feels overshadowed by reunion

Hello, this is a first post for me. I am an adult ...

February 24, 2014

Melanie Dolinger

My husband found his birth family and I'm struggling badly

I've been with my husband for 13 years and we have...

August 26, 2024

rohan SAGAR

being married to an adoptee

You also mentioned that it is like he is comfortab...

February 14, 2024

mike lister

being married to an adoptee

[quote=220341] @cfiedler, if you are still followi...

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Sarah

being married to an adoptee

[quote=221267] I am living the same thing with my ...

January 12, 2020

KitKat100

being married to an adoptee

I am living the same thing with my husband. He ha...

June 25, 2013

KitKat100

being married to an adoptee

I am living the same thing with my husband. He ha...

June 25, 2013

Christoph3r

being married to an adoptee

@cfiedler, if you are still following this thread....

May 23, 2013

atabex

being married to an adoptee

I've actually only registered to reply to this thr...

May 23, 2013

BethVA62

being married to an adoptee

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being married to an adoptee

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February 25, 2013

cfiedler

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