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[URL=http://www.adoptionforums.com/t1025.html]Can someone respond to this post for me[/URL]
My story is kinda close to I believe Linda's son. I went and lived with my Dad and his wife when I was 13, my Dad forced me to call my Step-mom "Mom" she had no kids of her own. Anyway, my step-mom was pretty controlling as to the time my father spent with me. My senior year in High School my Dad ended up taking a job out of state. My step-mom would go visit my dad every week-end; however he would try to come home one week-end every couple of months. Well it was getting pretty intense and she was becoming more hostile towards me, that her Mom (Grandma) came to me and said I should do what ever I can to get out of the house as soon as I graduated. So I joined the Navy (DEP) anyway, she started hinting around to her adopting me and when she did it made her happy and I was able to talk to my Dad more. So when I was 17 they started adoption proceeding so she could become my legal mom. The adoption went through after I was in the Navy (after I turned 18). The problem is I am 33 years old now and haven't seen my father in over 11 years due to my Step-mom finding out I started talking to my real mom when I was almost 19. I found out that she (my birth mother) was lied to about allot of things when I was 13. Anyway, my birth Mom and I are best friends and have been for years. My husband and I are redoing our life insurance policy and I want to make my Mom beneficiary, but by law she isn't my legal Mother. I want to get this mistake reversed? Does anyone have any ideas how to go about this?
TIA
Michelle
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Talk to your insurance agent. You can make who ever you want your benifactor. The person you select does not have to even be directly related to you, even though this is the case. Should not be a problem if your agent is on the same page. Its your call no one else can make that call for you.
Yes, I think it is possible for your birthmom to readopt you, even though you are now an adult. I've read 2 other posts on this forum about birthmoms who re-adopted their adult children, but it's been so long I can't remember who posted them. If there are any legal experts here, maybe they can give you some advice about how to get started with this process. Best of luck. ~Sharon
I didn't even realize that my birth Mom could do that? I will definitely look into that.
ballet_slippers: You are so very right about my step-mother signing over rights, I haven't talked with my Dad and and her in over 3 years. However, my two older brothers talk with them almost daily and see them on regularly. Trust me when I say that I am not the popular one. My brothers never had to call her mom and they were out of the house by the time the whole adoption thing happen. So her signing over her rights would be a battle and a half.
I will talk with the insurance agent, but because we are leaving wills and you always hear (yes, it is on TV) people contesting the wills, I didn't know if my step-mom could do that or not.
Oh and I still have both of my birth certificates I don't know if that would make it easier or not? I was in the the military and because the adoption wasn't finalized before I went in, they had to have copies of my original certificate and then they had to amend my service record with the new one.
Who says just because you turn 18 :confused: you are adult? Boy, I can't believe what a mess trying to talk and see more of my father when I was a kid that in turn it could cause this much heartache.
Again, Thank-you all.
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As far as I understand it, Debi is right - as an adult, you can go ahead and do it without needing consent from anyone else.
As far as you will - yes, you can control whomever gets the estate or any part of the estate. Have your lawyer work on it and be adament that all losse ends are not overlooked.
Good Luck!
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