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My husband and I are hoping to adopt. We have been married for 7 years. I have a son who is 8 (his bio dad died when he was an infant and my husband has raised him as his own). I am worried that our past will keep us from having any more children. About 6 years ago after an argument the police where called in and my husband was arrested and served 54 days for spousal abuse. Although I suffered no injuries and there has been no further occurences and we have since learned to talk rather than yell at each other. In addition, he had a drinking problem which he has since been recovering from.
My/our son is our proof of how well we can be as parents.
I tried to contact two attornies here in California, one wants $600 before meeting with us for consulatation and the other wants $350. They think we may still be able to adopt. We really want to increase our family but it sounds ridiculous to me to possibly pay $600 to have the attorney say no our chances are slim to none. I spoke with a fost/adopt agency who said they would not be able to place a child with us. I don't want to give up but I want to be prepared and not spin my wheels.
Can you advise me if you believe it is a futile? With all the hoops we have to jump through I want to know if in the end we will remain without any more children. . .
Thank you.
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I don't think it is futile, but the question needs to be asked of an agency regarding a homestudy, and not a state agency (fost-adopt usually refers to the state).
Your prior difficulties do not necessarily mean you can't adopt independently, but you are probably not going to be successful adopting through an agency. (They may have their own rules about with whom they will or won't place a child.)
In similar cases, I have had prospective adopting parents meet with an agency director, and tell him/her the whole story. I have had them enter an agreement with the agency that at their own expense they would undergo psychological evaluation, and that if it was positive, the agency would do the homestudy. You might want to try this.
If you have a successful homestudy, then you can approach facilitators, attorneys, etc., regarding helping you to adopt.
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Help,
My husband and I are looking to adopt from (guatemala) because we are in our forties.
I have a drug conviction from 1987. This felony record was supposed to be sealed and expunged.(according to my attorney at the time. I was innocent of the charge, but advised to plea guilty receive 6 months probation and my record would be sealed and expunged. I found my record under courthouse wedsite,(open to public) I attepted to contact my original attorney to find out that he was suspended by bar for misconduct and unethical practices. Contacted his parter at the time of the incident, he said my record could not be sealed or expunged in the state of Florida,because I plead guilty. A 16 year false arrest, will now be a problem for me and my husband to adopt?
Any advice?